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On this day in January 2015 i declared that I was going to get back in to my wedding dress by that summer.<\/p>\n

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Spoiler Alert \ud83d\udea8<\/p>\n

It didn\u2019t happen!<\/p>\n

I think we\u2019ve all been here all too often. Feeling like we should be making an effort to be fitter \/ happier \/ more productive but not really knowing how or even why sometimes.<\/p>\n

This resolution was wishful thinking. I remember feeling so low about my appearance. My weight was going up and up, I was having to cover my hair to stop me doing more damage with my hair pulling disorder and I just wanted to hide away. I wanted a magic wand to be waved and for me to somehow go back to a previous version of me.<\/p>\n

So why did I not take action? Why did I not change my eating, drinking, start exercising \u2026 I mean that\u2019s HOW you lose weight, just the simple math of calories in calories out, so why did it not happen?<\/p>\n

It didn\u2019t happen because I hated myself. I hated what I looked like. I hated my body. I hated my thinning hair and self destructive habits. I hated my blotchy skin. I hated that I couldn\u2019t eat what I wanted and lose weight. I hated how alcohol made me feel but I needed it to get through the discomfort I was feeling in so many areas of my life. Life wasn\u2019t fair. I wanted an easy and quick fix. So yeah, it didn\u2019t happen.<\/p>\n

Why did I hold out hope for an easy fix? Because I thought change would be too hard. I thought building healthy habits would mean giving up what little joy I had in life. What I wasn\u2019t factoring in was the fact that the way I was living was already hard on me mentally and physically!<\/p>\n

It wasn\u2019t until 2017 that I first started to see how I was going to get to where I wanted to be. I realised that what I was going through already was hard. Over eating and over drinking was my lifestyle and that was causing me the pain of looking in the mirror and hating what I saw. The other alternative was to swap some of the the over eating \/ drinking for 30 mins or an hour in the gym a few times a week and then looking in the mirror and seeing someone who was still not satisfied but someone who trying!<\/p>\n

It seemed like a fair exchange and worth giving it a try. So I cut out some of the takeaways and reassessed my portion sizes a bit and tried a few spin classes, and I remember starting to look on the mirror after these classes when I was bright red in the face but feeling alive and thinking, \u201cI\u2019m doing it\u201d.<\/p>\n

It took me a year of doing that before I realised that I felt ready take things further. I signed up for a 12 week fitness challenge at my local gym, something I had thought was way too extreme for me just a year earlier. I simply promised myself that I\u2019d turn up to the prescribed number of sessions and see what happened.
To my great surprise I found myself following through with that promise.<\/p>\n

For me the trick was to make the right promises. I didn\u2019t promise myself I would lose 3 stone in 5 months like I had in my 2017 New Years resolution. I simply promised to show up for myself. I wanted to look in the mirror and give myself that pat on the back for \u201cdoing it\u201d.<\/p>\n

The results just kept coming. The stones fell away. I ended up voluntarily giving up alcohol because of how good I felt, and I found myself with a whole new way of living with myself and it didn\u2019t suck! In 2019 I fit in to my wedding dress from 2006. I had forgotten that it was even a goal but I found my dress while trying on some other things I had forgotten I had in my wardrobe. I might have taken a lot longer to get there, but I\u2019d done it the right way.<\/p>\n

My biggest take aways, that I hope I can pass on are these:<\/p>\n