{"id":7072985,"date":"2026-10-02T14:37:17","date_gmt":"2026-10-02T14:37:17","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/fivemor.com\/?p=7072985"},"modified":"2026-10-02T14:37:17","modified_gmt":"2026-10-02T14:37:17","slug":"we-are-not-our-ruts-if-we-choose-growth-one-pattern-at-a-time-session-4-of-12-brain-leaders-and-learners","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fivemor.com\/?p=7072985","title":{"rendered":"We are Not Our Ruts if We Choose Growth, One Pattern at a Time (Session 4 of 12) \u2013 Brain Leaders And Learners"},"content":{"rendered":"
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The wonderful news is that our basal ganglia isn\u2019t trying to keep us stuck. It\u2019s simply saving energy by repeating what we practice. Every time we repeat kindness, curiosity, gratitude, courage, exercise, or learning, we\u2019re helping build pathways that make those choices easier tomorrow. Our habits quietly become our helpers.\u201d<\/p>\n
We tell ourselves we\u2019re creatures of habit,\u00a0 but neuroscience tells us we\u2019re also creators of new habits! Let\u2019s reinforce the hopeful message that our brains can keep changing throughout life.<\/p>\n
Do you ever wonder though, why change feels so clear in our minds and yet so elusive in our lives? Is that because we fear being shamed and blamed if we admit to slipping back into bad habits and rigid ruts? We read, we agree, we even feel stirred toward something better, and still, we remain where we have always been. This quiet paradox lives deep within us, shaped in large part by the steady, powerful work of our basal ganglia, or inner warehouse of habits. <\/p>\n<\/figure>\n
We can rewire the ruts and turn habits into growth!<\/strong><\/p>\n
Our basal ganglia is both a gift and a gatekeeper. It is the quiet architect of our habits, the system that allows us to move through life with efficiency and ease. It helps us walk without thinking, drive familiar roads without strain, and carry out daily routines with comforting predictability. It stores what we have practiced and proven, allowing us to live with a sense of reliability and flow.<\/p>\n
Yet within this same brilliance lies a profound challenge. What serves us through repetition can also confine us through repetition. What once created mastery can, over time, resist renewal. We find ourselves replaying old reactions, rehearsing familiar fears, and returning to well-worn patterns, even when we long for something new.<\/p>\n
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This is where growth often gets stuck.<\/strong><\/p>\n
We see it when we cling to routines that once worked but no longer serve. We continue conversations in the same tone, respond to stress in the same way, and approach relationships through the same lens. Our basal ganglia, in its devotion to efficiency, says, \u201cThis is what we know. This is what we do.\u201d <\/em>And so we do it again.<\/p>\n
We see it in our collective systems as well. Organizations repeat outdated processes because they feel safe. Communities hold onto traditions without re-examining their relevance. Even when better ways are visible, the pull of the familiar can quietly overpower our call to evolve.<\/p>\n
Fear often rides alongside this process. Not because we lack courage, but because our brains are designed to protect what is known. The unfamiliar requires effort, attention, and energy. It disrupts the automatic pathways our basal ganglia prefers. And so, we hesitate. We postpone. We retreat into what feels certain. But within this same system lies our pathway forward. It\u2019s a matter of harnessing courage to interrupt ourselves.<\/p>\n<\/figure>\n
Growth begins when we gently interrupt the automatic<\/strong>.<\/strong><\/p>\n
When we pause before reacting and choose a different response, we begin to loosen the grip of old patterns. When we take a new route, learn a new skill, listen to a new perspective, or engage with someone outside our usual circle, we invite our brain to build new pathways. These small, intentional shifts signal that change is not a threat, but a possibility.<\/p>\n
We free up growth when we become aware of our repetitions.<\/strong><\/p>\n
When we notice how often we replay past disappointments, we can begin to ask new questions. Instead of reliving what went wrong, we can explore what could be learned. Instead of reinforcing fear, we can experiment with curiosity. This shift does not erase the past, but it prevents the past from becoming our permanent script.<\/p>\n<\/figure>\n
We see <\/strong>breakthroughs <\/strong>when we pair familiarity with novelty.<\/strong><\/p>\n
We can keep the routines that serve us, our morning rhythms, our trusted relationships, our practiced skills. At the same time we can deliberately add something new alongside helpful habits. A new idea in a familiar meeting. A new conversation in a longstanding friendship. A new approach to a recurring challenge. In this way, our basal ganglia becomes not a barrier, but a bridge.<\/p>\n
We also grow when we practice change in small, repeatable ways.<\/strong><\/p>\n
Ironically, the very system that resists change can be retrained through repetition. When we consistently choose a new behavior, even in small doses, it begins to feel natural. A new habit forms. A new pathway strengthens. What once felt uncomfortable gradually becomes our new normal.<\/p>\n
We can see this in how we respond to conflict. Where we once reacted defensively, we can practice listening. At first, it feels unnatural. Our instincts pull us back to old patterns. But with repetition, listening becomes easier, more automatic, and more effective. Growth has taken root.<\/p>\n
We can see it in how we approach learning. Where we once avoided unfamiliar territory, we can begin with small steps, a new book, a new skill, a new perspective. Over time, our brain adapts, and curiosity replaces resistance.<\/p>\n
We can even see it in how we relate to one another. Long-held assumptions about people or groups can be softened when we intentionally seek new experiences and stories. The basal ganglia may have stored old patterns of thinking, but it is not fixed. It evolves as we do.<\/p>\n
The greatest pitfall is not that we have habits, but that we remain unaware of them.<\/strong><\/p>\n
When we replay the past without reflection, we strengthen the very patterns that hold us back. When we assume that what has been will always be, we close the door to what could be. But when we bring awareness to our patterns, we reclaim choice.<\/p>\n
Our basal ganglia does not need to be <\/strong>fought, <\/strong>it needs to be guided.<\/strong><\/p>\n
It is the system that allows us to build a life of meaning through repeated action. It is also the system that requires us to consciously choose what we repeat. In this way, we become participants in our own rewiring.<\/p>\n
We are not trapped in our ruts. We are shaped by what we practice.<\/strong><\/p>\n
And so, we move forward not by force, but by intention. We notice. We pause. We choose. We repeat what aligns with growth, and we gently release what does not.<\/p>\n
In doing so, we transform the very system that once held us still into the foundation that carries us forward.<\/p>\n
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