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Why do we do the things we do? <\/em><\/strong>It\u2019s a pretty broad question, and one I\u2019ve often asked myself before<\/a>. Wondering about the reason behind our words or actions is fairly common, especially when a person is dealing with mental health challenges. It\u2019s human nature to want to know the reason behind things; to understand the why<\/em>. And in our pursuit of finding that why<\/em>, we tend to create a black-and-white way of looking at things. But sometimes we don\u2019t know what to do when we can\u2019t find a reason \u2013 and that is what I want to talk about today.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s human nature to want to know the reason behind things, but anxiety and depression don\u2019t always offer us the reasons we\u2019re looking for. We often have to deal with the symptoms, with tendencies or triggers that get activated. Over the years, as people learn more about themselves or how to live with a mental illness, they might be more attuned to the reasons behind some of these things. But early on in a mental health journey \u2013 or even years down the road \u2013 we can still find ourselves without a reasonable explanation for why we\u2019re feeling a certain way. <\/p>\n

And that isn\u2019t always a bad thing. Frustrating, yes, but not always bad. Because at the end of the day, there is often a reason or an explanation. But when there\u2019s not, there\u2019s an assumption we tend to make \u2013 and that there\u2019s no reason for why we\u2019re feeling this way, and that it is completely nonsensical that we\u2019re acting or feeling a certain way.<\/p>\n

Early on in my mental health journey, a common mistake I would make is assuming that when I couldn\u2019t find a reason or explanation for something, I was convinced it\u2019s because the reason didn\u2019t exist. Why was I sad today? I had a few minutes to think about it and if I didn\u2019t determine a reason, then I <\/em>was the problem. I was sad for no reason. I was anxious for no reason. And if there was no reason, I thought at the time, then there wasn\u2019t a going to be a solution. <\/p>\n

What I was being too stubborn to admit to myself, and a problem I think a lot of us run into, is that we don\u2019t push back on that false narrative. Looking back, I started to learn how most often times, there probably was a reason I was feeling that way at the time, I just didn\u2019t know it then. For instance, if I was feeling depressed, and I couldn\u2019t figure out why, then a reason didn\u2019t exist. It was as if a reason couldn\u2019t<\/em> exist unless I also defined it and made it make sense to me. And while it made sense that this was my conclusion, I am hoping to grow in the way I deal with those feelings.<\/p>\n

Over time, I have gotten more comfortable with not knowing (I wouldn\u2019t say I actually am<\/em> comfortable, but that\u2019s a post for another day). Why? Because most of the time, there was an explanation \u2013 it just wasn\u2019t one I wanted to hear. Sometimes, the reason was simply: I have depression. <\/em>Or I have anxiety<\/em>. Sometimes the reason was deeper than that, but sometimes it wasn\u2019t. Either way, I stopped stressing \u2013 at least, as much as I was able. Just because I don\u2019t know a reason for things doesn\u2019t mean a reason doesn\u2019t exist \u2013 and I\u2019m growing more comfortable with acknowledging that truth. I\u2019ll figure it out one day. And if I don\u2019t? Well, as I\u2019ve learned, there are plenty of other things to worry about \u2013 trust me on that.<\/p>\n

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