{"id":7064880,"date":"2026-09-23T14:57:47","date_gmt":"2026-09-23T14:57:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/peraltafinancing.com\/uncategorized\/weak-men-like-dave-ramsey-and-mark-regnerus-are-causing-the-decline-of-marriage\/"},"modified":"2026-09-23T14:57:47","modified_gmt":"2026-09-23T14:57:47","slug":"weak-men-like-dave-ramsey-and-mark-regnerus-are-causing-the-decline-of-marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fivemor.com\/?p=7064880","title":{"rendered":"Weak men like Dave Ramsey and Mark Regnerus are causing the decline of marriage"},"content":{"rendered":"


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In this post, I wanted to show a couple of videos to illustrate this point: when Christian men or socially conservative men teach women to be 1) entitled and 2) immune to accountability, they are causing the decline of dating and marriage. So, I\u2019ll start by explaining what men want from marriage and what they don\u2019t want from marriage. Then we\u2019ll see the videos, then I\u2019ll make the general point.<\/p>\n

Problem Statement<\/strong><\/p>\n

So, I think what most men want from marriage is a helper. The Bible says that men are designed to be the heads of their homes and women are supposed to help them with their plans. And Christian men are expected to have a Christian plan that serves God, so his marriage plan should be oriented towards making a marriage that serves God, first and foremost.<\/p>\n

My plan for marriage was 5 things:<\/p>\n

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  1. 3-4 homeschooled kids who would go on to become influential Christians, preferably in the mold of Dr. Walter Bradley.<\/li>\n
  2. Teach evidential apologetics in the church, maybe with guest speakers or conferences.<\/li>\n
  3. Open the home to small group apologetics ministry, including to neighbors and co-workers.<\/li>\n
  4. Some kind of apologetics ministry, like a blog, podcast or online book study group.<\/li>\n
  5. Some kind of political involvement to improve the liberty, prosperity and security and that marriage depends on.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    And here are some examples of threats to this plan:<\/p>\n

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    1. Divorce initiated by wife, with alimony, child support, loss of custody, loss of visitation.<\/li>\n
    2. False accusations at work that would cause loss of employment.<\/li>\n
    3. Crime or violence from criminals or criminal illegal immigrants.<\/li>\n
    4. Indoctrination of kids by public schools and \/ or university leftists.<\/li>\n
    5. Socialism making the marriage and parenting plan unaffordable.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

      So, when interviewing women for that plan, I would be looking for demonstrated ability<\/em> in areas like evidential apologetics, basic economics, evidence-based positions on moral issues like natural marriage and pro-life, advocacy for conservative policies, STEM degree, private sector work experience, no debt, chastity, sobriety and so on.<\/p>\n

      Research Findings<\/strong><\/p>\n

      Let\u2019s focus on that divorce risk for a moment. You can actually look at social science research and see what behaviors are more likely to cause divorce.<\/p>\n

      So, here are two examples of independent risk factors to divorce:<\/p>\n

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      1. outstanding debt from loans and wastful spending<\/li>\n
      2. multiple recreational premarital sex partners<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

        And here are some articles about studies for the first one:<\/p>\n

        And the studies for the second one:<\/p>\n

        That\u2019s how I (a software engineer) make decisions. I think about what the Bible says I should be doing, I make a plan, I identify threats, and then I execute the plan. Divorce is bad for marital stability so I am rejecting candidates with a higher risk of divorce. Not only is student loan debt an independent risk factor for divorce, but even if there is no divorce, there are other bad effects related to my plan, such as delays in purchasing a home and delaying the production of children.<\/p>\n

        Data<\/strong><\/p>\n

        So, with all that said, take a look at this video from well-known simp Dave Ramsey.<\/p>\n