(Loving Others as a Christian in Today\u2019s Secular World)<\/a><\/strong>, here I will only point out three key concepts regarding this:<\/p>\n1. God Himself\u00a0is<\/em>\u00a0love. \u00a0He is the definition and epitome of love, the creator and source of it, and the ultimate demonstrator of love!<\/p>\n\nDear friends, let us love one another,\u00a0for love comes from God.\u00a0 Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God.\u00a0\u00a0Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. This is how God showed his love among us:\u00a0 He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him.\u00a0\u00a0This is love:\u00a0 not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n1 John 4:7-10 NIV<\/em><\/strong><\/em><\/strong><\/cite><\/p><\/blockquote>\n2. It is ONLY God who can empower us as Christians, through His Holy Spirit, to love according to His standards:<\/p>\n
\n- We love because he first loved us. \u00a01 John 4:19 NIV<\/strong><\/em><\/li>\n
- For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline. \u00a02 Timothy 1:7 NLT<\/strong><\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
3. Since God is love and the creator and source of it, He is the only one with the authority to define how to demonstrate that love.<\/p>\n
\nLove is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.<\/em><\/em><\/p>\n1 Corinthians 13:4-8 NIV<\/em><\/strong><\/em><\/strong><\/cite><\/p><\/blockquote>\nTo summarize, God demonstrated His love toward us and has commanded us and empowered us to demonstrate that same love toward others, including our enemies.<\/p>\n
It doesn\u2019t mean we have to be their best friend, but it does mean we are to extend the kind of love to them that God extended to us \u2013 compassion, patience and kindness, rather than jealousy, pride, and anger. \u00a0<\/p>\n
But Lord, why<\/em> do we have to do this?<\/p>\nWhy Does God Call Us to Love Our Enemies?<\/h2>\n
For starters, God calls us to love our enemies because we, too, were once enemies of God, yet God still expressed His love toward us:<\/p>\n
\nAnd since we have been made right in God\u2019s sight by the blood of Christ, he will certainly save us from God\u2019s condemnation.\u00a0For since our friendship with God was restored by the death of his Son while we were still his enemies, we will certainly be saved through the life of his Son.\u00a0So now we can rejoice in our wonderful new relationship with God because our Lord Jesus Christ has made us friends of God.<\/em><\/em><\/p>\nRomans 5:9-11 NLT<\/em><\/strong><\/cite><\/p><\/blockquote>\nSecondly, because God\u2019s kingdom is NOTHING like the kingdom of this world.\u00a0 He calls us to much higher standards as Christians:<\/p>\n
\nYou have heard that it was said, \u2018Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.\u2019 But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be children of your Father in heaven. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous.\u00a0 If you love those who love you, what reward will you get?\u00a0 Are not even the tax collectors doing that?\u00a0 And if you greet only your own people, what are you doing more than others? Do not even pagans do that?\u00a0<\/em><\/em><\/em><\/p>\nMatthew 5:43-47 NIV<\/em><\/strong><\/cite><\/p><\/blockquote>\nWe all can quote the verse \u2018love others, as I have loved you\u2019.\u00a0 But too often, we only apply that to people we actually like. And Scripture says, even the non-Christians do that, so how does that make us any different?\u00a0 <\/p>\n
To truly<\/em> love ALL others as God loved us means remembering that God loved us while we were still sinners and enemies of His kingdom, and then being willing to show love to our <\/em>enemies as well.<\/p>\nIt is only when we have these spiritual truths in mind that we can even begin to think about how<\/em> to walk in obedience to God\u2019s command to love our enemies.<\/p>\nHow Can I Love My Enemies?<\/h2>\n
As mentioned previously, loving our enemies doesn\u2019t come naturally to our flesh, but it is made possible through the power of the Holy Spirit. When we choose obedience over emotion, we reflect Christ in ways that words alone never could.<\/p>\n
So let\u2019s dive into the five biblical ways to love our enemies.\u00a0 There are two things we shouldn\u2019t<\/em> do, and three things we should<\/em> be doing when it comes to loving our enemies.<\/p>\n1. Don\u2019t Seek Vengeance Against Your Enemies<\/h3>\n
One of the clearest things in Scripture is that vengeance belongs to God, not us. Seeking revenge may feel justified in the moment, but it always leads to further harm rather than healing.<\/p>\n
\nRepay no one evil for evil, but\u00a0give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all.\u00a0If possible, so far as it depends on you,\u00a0live peaceably with all.\u00a0Beloved,\u00a0never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written,\u00a0\u201cVengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.\u201d<\/em><\/em><\/em><\/em><\/p>\nRomans 12:17-19 ESV<\/em><\/strong><\/cite><\/p><\/blockquote>\nLetting go of vengeance doesn\u2019t mean pretending the hurt never happened. It means trusting God to be the righteous Judge while we focus on guarding our hearts. When we release the desire for revenge, we free ourselves from carrying a burden God never intended us to hold.<\/p>\n
Even if presented with a clear opportunity to get vengeance, we should not see that as a \u201csign from God\u201d.\u00a0 Trust me, it\u2019s more likely a temptation from the devil than anything.\u00a0<\/p>\n
David is a perfect example of this.\u00a0 After being on the run for years from King Saul, who sought to kill him, he was presented with a literal opportunity to kill Saul.\u00a0 It was as if Saul was delivered right into David\u2019s hands in a cave. And it would have been so easy for David to take that moment to rid himself of his enemy once and for all and claim the throne for which God had anointed him.<\/p>\n
However, David also knew that it was sinful to kill the current king, who had also been anointed by God:<\/p>\n
\nHe came to the sheep pens along the way; a cave\u00a0was there, and Saul went in to relieve\u00a0himself. David and his men were far back in the cave.\u00a0The men said, \u201cThis is the day the\u00a0Lord\u00a0spoke\u00a0of when he said to you, \u2018I will give your enemy into your hands for you to deal with as you wish.\u2019\u201d\u00a0Then David crept up unnoticed and cut\u00a0off a corner of Saul\u2019s robe. Afterward, David was conscience-stricken\u00a0for having cut off a corner of his robe.\u00a0He said to his men, \u201cThe\u00a0Lord\u00a0forbid that I should do such a thing to my master, the\u00a0Lord\u2019s anointed,\u00a0or lay my hand on him; for he is the anointed of the\u00a0Lord.\u201d\u00a0With these words David sharply rebuked his men and did not allow them to attack Saul. And Saul left the cave and went his way.<\/em><\/em><\/em><\/em><\/em><\/p>\n1 Samuel 24:3-7 NIV<\/em><\/strong><\/cite><\/p><\/blockquote>\nAs tempting as it was, and as easy as it would have been, David yielded to the promptings of the Holy Spirit that convicted his conscience, and he remembered the Word of the Lord.\u00a0 He even rebuked the men of his army who thought it was a good idea to go ahead and kill Saul and take the throne.\u00a0<\/p>\n
If you know the full story, you know that Saul and his sons were eventually killed in a battle against the Philistines, and David eventually ascended to the throne as God intended.<\/p>\n
David knew the throne was never his to take by force.\u00a0 God had anointed him King over Israel and God would bring him to that throne.\u00a0 In the same way, judgment is not ours to dish out nor vengeance ours to take.\u00a0 God has set every Christian apart for His purposes, and He will be our Judge and avenger.<\/p>\n
\nThe\u00a0Lord\u00a0is a God who avenges. O God who avenges, shine forth.<\/em><\/em><\/em><\/em><\/em><\/em><\/p>\nPsalm 94:1 NIV<\/em><\/strong><\/cite><\/p><\/blockquote>\nIt is not a guarantee that we will always see God\u2019s vengeance and righteous judgment carried out on this side of heaven, but we can rest assured that it will be carried out in His time and in accordance with His will.\u00a0 In the meantime, we are commanded to show love to our enemies and trust in God\u2019s righteous judgment.<\/p>\n
2. Don\u2019t Gloat Over the Demise of Your Enemies<\/h3>\n
When someone who has wronged us fails at something, faces consequences, has something bad happen to them, or even dies, our natural response might be a celebratory sense of satisfaction. But Scripture warns us against taking pleasure in another person\u2019s downfall\u2014even if they hurt us deeply.<\/p>\n
\nDo not rejoice when your enemy falls, and let not your heart be glad when he stumbles, lest the Lord see it and be displeased<\/em><\/em><\/em><\/em><\/em><\/em><\/em>.<\/p>\nProverbs 24:17-18 ESV<\/em><\/strong><\/cite><\/p><\/blockquote>\nGloating reveals a heart posture that is still entangled in pride and bitterness. Choosing compassion over celebrating our enemies\u2019 downfall keeps our hearts soft and aligned with God\u2019s mercy and grace toward\u00a0us<\/em><\/span>.<\/p>\nLet\u2019s take a look at David\u2019s reaction when he got the news of King Saul\u2019s death:<\/p>\n
\nDavid and his men tore their clothes in sorrow when they heard the news.\u00a0They mourned and wept and fasted all day for Saul and his son Jonathan, and for the\u00a0Lord\u2019s army and the nation of Israel, because they had died by the sword that day.<\/em><\/em><\/em><\/em><\/em><\/em><\/em><\/p>\n2 Samuel 1:11-12 NLT<\/em><\/strong><\/cite><\/p><\/blockquote>\nAlthough Saul was his enemy and had hunted David for years, he was still the King of Israel whom God had anointed, and David acknowledged this in both his heart and actions. He even wrote a funeral song for Saul and his sons (2 Samuel 1:17-27)<\/a><\/strong>, which he commanded be taught to all the people of Judah. He did all of these things PRIOR to taking his rightful place on the throne as king.<\/p>\nNow, we<\/em> may not cry, fast on behalf of, or honor our enemies if they were to die. It\u2019s important to note that David was very close to Saul and his family for several years before things took a turn. David played the harp in Saul\u2019s court, killed Goliath on behalf of the King and Israel, and fought in Saul\u2019s army. Not to mention the fact that Saul\u2019s son Jonathan was a very close friend of David. <\/p>\nThe principle here is to be compassionate, recognizing that a life was lost and that loved ones were left behind. <\/p>\n
To clarify even further, when God takes vengeance on our enemies and delivers justice on our behalf, it is not wrong to express gratitude to God or even praise Him for His righteous judgment. It is okay to be relieved and even comforted, especially if, like David, our lives were in danger:<\/p>\n
\n- For you have rescued me from my troubles\u00a0and helped me to triumph over my enemies.\u00a0 Psalm 54:7 NLT<\/strong><\/em><\/li>\n
- He is the God who pays back those who harm me;\u00a0he brings down the nations under me\u00a0and delivers me from my enemies.\u00a0 You hold me safe beyond the reach of my enemies;\u00a0you save me from violent opponents.\u00a0 2 Samuel 22:48-49 NLT<\/strong><\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
However, if those feelings of relief and gratitude turn into celebration or gloating over the destruction of our enemies, then we need to repent.<\/p>\n
3. Let Your Light Shine in the Presence of Your Enemies<\/h3>\n
Loving your enemies doesn\u2019t always require words. Oftentimes, it\u2019s your consistent Christlike character that speaks the loudest. When you choose integrity, humility, and kindness in the presence of those who oppose you, God uses your light to expose darkness.<\/p>\n
\nYou are the light of the world.\u00a0A town built on a hill cannot be hidden.\u00a0Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house.\u00a0In the same way, let your light shine before others,\u00a0that they may see your good deeds\u00a0and glorify\u00a0your Father in heaven.\u00a0<\/em><\/em><\/em><\/em><\/em><\/em><\/em><\/em><\/p>\nMatthew 5:14-16 NIV<\/em><\/strong><\/cite><\/p><\/blockquote>\nYou may never get an apology or understanding from your enemies, but your obedience can still bring glory to God. Living differently\u2014even when mistreated\u2014shows that your hope, identity, and peace are rooted in Christ, not in how others treat you.<\/p>\n
\nA new command\u00a0I give you: Love one another.\u00a0As I have loved you, so you must love one another.\u00a0By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.\u00a0<\/strong><\/em><\/em><\/em><\/em><\/em><\/em><\/em><\/em><\/em><\/p>\nJohn 13:34-35 NIV<\/em><\/strong><\/cite><\/p><\/blockquote>\nLetting our light shine looks like following Jesus\u2019 example. It\u2019s enduring all types of persecution and strife that may come our way. <\/p>\n
It\u2019s turning the other cheek; choosing not to slander someone all over social media, even after they have done nothing but slander you; walking away when they start cursing at you in a crowd, trying to get you to react; being the one in the group who stops the gossip mill and changes the subject when everyone else just wants to talk badly about the other person.<\/p>\n
No one ever said loving our enemies would be easy.\u00a0 In fact, the bulk of what God calls us to do is not easy, which is why we need the power of the Holy Spirit to do it all.\u00a0 <\/p>\n
\nYes, I am the vine; you are the branches. Those who remain in me, and I in them, will produce much fruit. For apart from me you can do nothing.\u00a0<\/em><\/em><\/em><\/em><\/em><\/em><\/em><\/em><\/em><\/p>\nJohn 15:5 NIV<\/em><\/strong><\/cite><\/p><\/blockquote>\nWe just have to learn to walk in the Spirit and not be led by our sinful emotions.<\/p>\n
4. Kill Your Enemies With Kindness<\/h3>\n
The last thing we want to express to an enemy is kindness or any sense of servitude. Thankfully, the Holy Spirit empowers us to do this as well:<\/p>\n
\nBut the fruit\u00a0of the Spirit is love,\u00a0joy, peace,\u00a0forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.\u00a0Against such things there is no law.\u00a0<\/em><\/em><\/em><\/em><\/em><\/em><\/em><\/em><\/em><\/em><\/p>\nGalatians 5:22-24 NIV<\/em><\/strong><\/cite><\/p><\/blockquote>\nKindness has a way of disarming hostility. \u00a0This doesn\u2019t mean being na\u00efve or allowing continued abuse or mistreatment from someone, but it does<\/em> mean choosing goodness instead of bitterness whenever possible.<\/p>\n\n- On the contrary: If your enemy is hungry, feed him;\u00a0\u00a0if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head. Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. Romans 12:20\u201321 NIV<\/strong><\/em><\/li>\n
- If your enemy is hungry, give him food! If he is thirsty, give him something to drink! This will make him feel ashamed of himself, and God will reward you.\u00a0Proverbs 25:21-22 TLB<\/strong><\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
Kindness doesn\u2019t excuse wrong behavior\u2014it reflects a transformed heart. When we respond with unexpected grace, we mirror the way God has treated us. Sometimes our kindness can lead to others\u2019 repentance. Other times, it simply keeps our hearts free from bitterness and hatred.\u00a0 Either way, it is an expression of obedience to God, who has called us to walk in kindness towards everyone.\u00a0<\/p>\n
\n- Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse. Romans 12:14 NIV<\/strong><\/em><\/li>\n
- Therefore, as God\u2019s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves\u00a0with compassion, kindness, humility,\u00a0gentleness and patience.\u00a0Bear with each other\u00a0and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.\u00a0 Colossians 3:12-13 NIV<\/strong><\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
Killing your enemy with kindness looks like giving them a genuine compliment, being generally polite, congratulating them on a recent accomplishment, helping them without being asked, listening patiently when they talk, or even buying them a cup of coffee.<\/p>\n
I dare you to find two ways to express kindness and even be a blessing to an enemy this week.<\/p>\n
5. Pray For Your Enemies<\/h3>\n
This may be the hardest, and yet most powerful way to love your enemies.<\/p>\n
Prayer changes things, especially us<\/em>.\u00a0 And there is nothing more humbling than praying for your enemies. When we pray for those who hurt us, God begins to soften our hearts and align our perspective with His. <\/p>\nLet\u2019s look at a passage I referenced earlier:<\/p>\n
\nYou have heard that it was said, \u2018Love your neighbor\u00a0and hate your enemy.\u2019\u00a0But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you,\u00a0that you may be children\u00a0of your Father in heaven. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous.\u00a0<\/em><\/em><\/em><\/em><\/em><\/em><\/em><\/em><\/em><\/em><\/em><\/p>\nMatthew 5:43-45 NIV<\/em><\/strong><\/cite><\/p><\/blockquote>\nYou don\u2019t have to feel<\/em> \u201cloving\u201d for your prayers to be effective\u2014you just have to be willing. Over time, prayer can dismantle bitterness and replace it with compassion.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\nSo what exactly do you pray for your enemies?\u00a0<\/p>\n
Pray for God to work on their hearts for change.\u00a0 If they are non-Christians, pray for their salvation because, ultimately, that is what they need the most.<\/p>\n
If there is a need you know they have, pray for them.\u00a0 If they are sick, pray for them.\u00a0 They may even come to you asking for prayer \u2013 pray for them.\u00a0 Why?\u00a0 Because that is what God wants us to do!\u00a0 And when we obey Him, He moves in ways we can\u2019t even imagine:<\/p>\n
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