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I have been thinking about this a lot and wanted to share it with you\u2014\u00a0that moment when you realize that you are done having babies<\/strong> and you are closing that chapter.<\/p>\n

Update:<\/em><\/strong> This post was originally written several years ago, but it always feels close to my heart.<\/em> <\/p>\n

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Last night, while we were out to eat with our four kids<\/a>, I looked over at the booth across the room from our table. \u00a0I saw a mom with her two teenage daughters. \u00a0 I saw them laughing together, and I saw the girls interacting with each other, making faces that only the other one would understand.<\/p>\n

I leaned in and whispered to my husband\u2026 \u201cW<\/strong>ouldn\u2019t it be nice to have a sister for Allie? \u201c<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

The look that he gave back to me told me his answer (I had five very high-risk pregnancies, one ending in a loss\u2014 read that story here<\/a>).<\/em><\/p>\n

(This was us in 2012\u2026 finding out that she was a girl.)<\/p>\n

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I am slowly learning that although he has always agreed to four children and I always knew that this was our \u201cmagic number,\u201d\u2026 you know, the one that we both agree on?\u00a0 I still had that little thought in my mind\u2026\u00a0what about one more?
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I think that coming to terms with the fact that you are done having babies is hard, whether this is after you have had one baby or 18 babies. Realizing that this is your LAST baby is something to stop you, to make you think, to make you appreciate and miss what you had and have.<\/p>\n

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The last time that you\u00a0felt that first flutter in your\u00a0belly- the one that felt like tiny butterfly wings on the wall of your uterus.<\/p>\n

The last time that I ran to the bathroom after my husband burnt something in the kitchen because my pregnancy hormones were not letting me handle any smells out of the norm.<\/p>\n

The last time that\u00a0our sons would put their hands on my belly and wait for their sibling to kick it away.<\/p>\n

The last time that I watched my stomach move while our baby changed\u00a0positions.<\/p>\n

The last time that our baby, in my belly, would kick\u00a0my husband\u2019s back while I slept during the night (our babies were always so active at night).<\/p>\n

The last time I would be rushed to the hospital was in the middle of the night.<\/p>\n

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The last time that I would be told to push or that I would say, \u201cI can do this without pain medication,\u201d only to cry halfway through, telling my husband that it was such terrible pain and asking, \u201cWhy did I wait so long to ask for an epidural?\u201d<\/p>\n

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The last time that I would hold a brand new baby while they got used to being OUTSIDE of the womb. <\/p>\n

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The last time that I would bring a new baby home, visitors would tell me that he\/she was \u201cthe tiniest baby I ever held\u201d \u00a0(our babies were small- 5 lbs., 4 lbs., 7 lbs., and 6 lbs.)<\/p>\n

The last time that I would nurse a baby, while rubbing that soft\u00a0baby head with what felt like duck fuzz instead of hair, and listen to their little breath and grunt as they swallowed each sip of milk (that tiny, unintended smile that they have when they are falling asleep with a full belly)<\/p>\n

\"allie-3\"\"allie-3\"<\/figure>\n

Yes, the last baby is a hard chapter to close in the book of life.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

I guess what\u00a0it really means is that we are getting older. \u00a0<\/strong> Gone are the days when\u00a0we spent a lifetime dreaming of these things\u2026 engagements, weddings, pregnancy, and birth.<\/em> \u00a0 From the time that I was in elementary school, I can remember pretending to be pregnant\u00a0(Pillow under my shirt). <\/em>\u00a0You spend so many years dreaming of those days\u2026\u00a0and they come and go so quickly<\/strong>!<\/p>\n

Getting older for me means getting older for everyone else, too<\/strong>.\u00a0No more first steps, or first hugs, or first kisses. I won\u2019t watch a baby cringe the first time that I place them in the funny-feeling<\/em> sand, at the same place where I first met the beach.<\/p>\n

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Or, on that same day,<\/em> discover how much fun it can be to play in the sand and look\u00a0out at\u00a0the ocean.<\/p>\n

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I won\u2019t swing them\u00a0over the ocean when they\u00a0are tiny enough that I can lift them\u00a0high enough where those little toes barely touch the water.<\/p>\n

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And, my children will not know my maternal Grandparents (the reason that we know & love the beach as we do), because as we got older, so did they.
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<\/a>So, while not having any more children symbolizes all of these things for me, we are moving on from those days. \u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

We are moving into our middle years:<\/strong> adventures, laughs, real conversations with our kids, seeing their dreams become reality. \u00a0 I can watch their relationships grow and watch them bond, as more than siblings, but as friend<\/strong><\/em>s. <\/p>\n

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As my husband says \u201cIts time to close that chapter of the book.\u201d \u00a0\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

While the thought of not being in the baby stage is sad for me, because I do love it so<\/em>, I am so excited for what is to come. \u00a0 Tonight we went out to dinner and we had a great time (It is getting easier to go out to eat as they get older)<\/em>. \u00a0 Even our toddler was just sitting beside me in the booth, eating her dinner. \u00a0We all just talked<\/em>.<\/p>\n

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I can only imagine how much fun life\u00a0will be as they continue to grow and we can continue to connect with them in ways that we didn\u2019t realize.<\/p>\n

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It might not be by singing a lullaby or by tickling their piggy toes<\/em>. It will be by listening to them, taking an interest in what they are interested in, and learning from them while they learn from us- becoming their friends as they age.<\/p>\n

\"becky\"becky<\/figure>\n

So, I am ready to close that chapter, because if you thought that chapter was good,\u00a0just you wait. \u2665<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

I\u2019d love to invite you to join my free one-on-one time Challenge<\/a>. I will send you this calendar, along with daily emails with tasks, advice, and inspiration so you can have the relationship with your children that you always envisioned.<\/p>\n

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In the meantime, enjoy the beautiful babies that you have raised\u2026 and look forward to your FUN life ahead, filled with joy, love & laughter.\u00a0<\/p>\n

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