{"id":7062879,"date":"2026-09-21T08:55:03","date_gmt":"2026-09-21T08:55:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/peraltafinancing.com\/uncategorized\/on-overcoming-fear-dean-bokhari\/"},"modified":"2026-09-21T08:55:03","modified_gmt":"2026-09-21T08:55:03","slug":"on-overcoming-fear-dean-bokhari","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fivemor.com\/?p=7062879","title":{"rendered":"On overcoming fear | Dean Bokhari"},"content":{"rendered":"<p> <br \/>\n<\/p>\n<div>\n<p>Some of my fondest memories as a young kid were the summers I spent at a water park called Splish Splash, on Long Island, NY. I remember the first time I went; my older cousins wanted me to go on this really tall water slide called \u201cThe Cliff Hanger\u201d.<\/p>\n<p>I was scared shitless\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Dropping 8-stories in 3 seconds down a water slide called \u201cThe Cliff Hanger\u201d wasn\u2019t exactly what I had in mind when we were on our way to the water park.<\/p>\n<p>Needless to say, I gave in to the peer pressure.<\/p>\n<p>And so, there I was, climbing stair after stair; story after story, trying my best to think of something \u2014 <em>anything<\/em> \u2014 to help me overcome this fear that seemed to be engulfing my entire body.<\/p>\n<p>By the time we got to the very top of the speed-slide, I\u2019d already seen 6 people\u2013men, women, and children\u2013chicken out.<\/p>\n<p>Sometimes people climbing up the stairs clucked like chickens at the ones who\u2019d decided to take the walk of shame all the way back down to the bottom.<\/p>\n<p>(I probably would\u2019ve thought that was funny if I wasn\u2019t thinking about doing the same thing.)<\/p>\n<p>As I approached the very top of the slide, I was making excuses about how cold and windy it was to cover up the fact that I was now shaking in my swimming trunks.<\/p>\n<p>It was 96 degrees outside.<\/p>\n<p>Once we got up top, I looked over the edge of the rails, all the way down to the bottom of the 8-story slide.<\/p>\n<p>My stomach turned\u2026 Now I was <i>really\u00a0<\/i>freaking out.<\/p>\n<p>It was like I couldn\u2019t help it. My heart was racing. My legs were shaking. And I was trying my best to pretend like none of it was happening.<\/p>\n<p>BUT IT WAS HAPPENING \u2014 I was filled with fear, and I couldn\u2019t do a damn thing about it.<\/p>\n<p>So, how\u2019d I overcome the fear\u00a0and\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.deanbokhari.com\/lessons\/4-build-unshakeable-confidence-destroy-fear\/\" xlink=\"href\">build the confidence<\/a>\u00a0to go down that slide once and for all?<\/p>\n<p>I didn\u2019t \u2026<\/p>\n<p>Let me clarify: I did NOT overcome the fear. But I DID go down that slide.<\/p>\n<p>Even though I was scared out of my mind when I got up to the top of that slide, I mustered up a way to\u00a0feel the fear and do it anyway.<\/p>\n<p>And ya know what? I did it again and again after that. I was nervous on every run.<\/p>\n<p>But I did it anyway.<\/p>\n<hr\/>\n<p>You know that feeling you get when you look down from the edge of a building that\u2019s really, really high? \u2026 You know you\u2019re safe, but you feel a little anxious nonetheless. As it turns out, this is a biological response our bodies produce to protect us from harm.<\/p>\n<p>Think about it \u2014 millions of years ago, we didn\u2019t have the pleasure of looking down at a city from the top of the Eiffel Tower.<\/p>\n<p>The closest thing we had to that was a cliff. And back before buildings and skyscrapers \u2014 when we were nothing more than hunters and gatherers \u2014 looking down from somewhere high wasn\u2019t usually a good thing\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Back then, if you were up against a cliff, it\u2019s usually because you\u2019re trying to figure out how to:<\/p>\n<p>a) stay alive, or<br \/>b) find food.<\/p>\n<p>And our bodies would respond accordingly to help us make that happen (to make the kill, or get away from becoming the kill).<\/p>\n<hr\/>\n<h3>Fear is a good thing<\/h3>\n<p>In fact, it\u2019s a perfectly natural biological response that\u2019s actually there to help us.<\/p>\n<p>Let me give you a couple examples:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><b>For our ancestors, fear USED to look like this:<\/b>\u00a0\u201cIf I don\u2019t take immediate action, then this lion will rip me to shreds\u201d<\/li>\n<li><b>For you and me, fear NOW looks more like this:<\/b>\u00a0\u201cIf I don\u2019t take immediate action, then my wife will divorce my ass.\u201d or like this: \u201cIf I don\u2019t start\u00a0doing what I love for a living, right now while I\u2019m still young enough to do so, then I\u2019ll live the rest of my life in regret.\u201d<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>In more practical terms\u2026<\/p>\n<p>The most effective way to overcome fear is to\u00a0cultivate the courage to take action\u00a0in spite of how afraid you may be.<\/p>\n<p>So feel the fear.<\/p>\n<p>Then do the thing you\u2019re afraid of.<\/p>\n<p>Something good will almost always come of it.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Some of my fondest memories as a young kid were the summers I spent at a water park called Splish Splash, on Long Island, NY. 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