{"id":7056299,"date":"2026-09-03T23:18:43","date_gmt":"2026-09-03T23:18:43","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/peraltafinancing.com\/uncategorized\/do-things-youll-love-yourself-for\/"},"modified":"2026-09-03T23:18:43","modified_gmt":"2026-09-03T23:18:43","slug":"do-things-youll-love-yourself-for","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fivemor.com\/?p=7056299","title":{"rendered":"Do Things You\u2019ll Love Yourself For"},"content":{"rendered":"


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The night before you travel somewhere, order your favorite pizza, eat some of it for dinner, and seal the rest in a bag and put it in the freezer.<\/p>\n

A week later, when you get home unexpectedly late, wiped out and ravenous, you\u2019ll open your fridge to find only eggs, pickles, and condiments. Then, you\u2019ll remember that your favorite pizza is right there<\/em> in the freezer!\u00a0<\/p>\n

In that moment, notice that alongside the joy of unexpected pizza, you also will feel love for \u2013 and will feel loved by \u2014 your past self.<\/p>\n

A regular version of this is FlyLady\u2019s recommendation that you shine your kitchen sink before you go to bed<\/a>. This small, easy ritual has a disproportionate benefit on your morning. The version of you that wakes up and makes coffee next to that shiny sink will not only have a better day, but will feel respected and cared for.<\/p>\n

It might seem like these actions are a kind of zero-sum, one-to-one exchange: you lose something now to gain something later. Your future self receives a gift, but it can only gain what your past self has given up.<\/p>\n

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In practice, it\u2019s not zero-sum. It almost feels just as good to do these things as it does to discover them done for you. Shining the sink and wrapping up those pizza slices are acts of love for your future self, and acts of love feel good to do, so you benefit on both ends. Doing these tasks intentionally gives you the same warm, nurturing feeling as brushing a grateful cat or tying someone\u2019s tie for them. \u00a0<\/p>\n

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\u201cGood morning, loved one<\/em>\u201c<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n

And Present Self definitely sees Future Self as someone else<\/em>. Think of how often you feel at odds with this hypothetical future version of you, such as when you put off something you ought to do today. You\u2019re just dropping more work onto the desk of Future Self, who know will have enough to do already. You can rationalize it only because he feels like some other guy. He\u2019s not you, not really. You obviously don\u2019t want the task in question on your own<\/em> desk.<\/p>\n

Say Present Self wants to sneak in another episode of The Wire<\/em> before going to bed, because it\u2019s getting really good. This will cost Future Self something \u2014 she now has to carry the day\u2019s already considerable burdens on 6 hours of sleep. But Present Self is the one who gets to choose for both of them.<\/p>\n

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Not a priority shared by Future Self<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n

This arrangement is their eternal relationship. Present self is the actor, the decider. Future Self helplessly inherits the fruits of those actions and decisions, which could be ease, security, wealth, and good situations, or their opposites.<\/p>\n

From these new conditions, Future Self then becomes the new Present Self, acting and deciding and leaving something for her counterpart to come.<\/p>\n

The most important relationship<\/h3>\n

The quality of this relationship between Present Self and Future Self shapes your whole life. If it\u2019s a loving relationship, you\u2019ll do well, because you\u2019re always both people, and loving actions benefit both players.<\/p>\n

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Strategic pizza benefits all<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n

Look at your present with the mind that you\u2019re always inheriting<\/a> what the previous Present Self left you, when he thought of you as that other guy. The sum of this inheritance determines much about your living situation, your level of wealth, your abilities, your relationships, your health, and your options.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re stingy with your love for the other guy, it means you\u2019re always living with a stingy inheritance, because that\u2019s what\u2019s always being left for you. Everything will be perpetually strained and scarce \u2014 money, time, options. You don\u2019t feel very well-loved, and which will incline you towards the same stinginess.<\/p>\n

The not-ideal situation:<\/p>\n

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I always thought the key to improving this cycle was self-discipline: identify the rational move and make yourself do it. Get better at this over time. Form habits, strengthen character.<\/p>\n

Self-discipline has its place, but I think there\u2019s a better, more human way to get there: regard everything you do as an opportunity to love the other guy.<\/p>\n

The ideal situation:<\/p>\n

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Lovingly pack his lunch for him. Shine the sink for him. Get the thing done Friday afternoon, not because it\u2019s rational, but because you love Monday Guy.<\/p>\n

Come Monday, he will know he\u2019s loved, and by that love he will understand how to conduct himself towards his own future counterpart.<\/p>\n

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Monday Guy needs your love more than you know (and you need his)<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n

The loving relationship with Future Self mostly comes down to how<\/em> Present Self does things. A task done lovingly is done with an open heart and full attention.<\/p>\n

You can iron your shirt because you \u201chave ironing to do,\u201d or you can iron it because you love the person who will be wearing it tomorrow.<\/p>\n

When you do it with that motivation, it\u2019s not even the same task \u2014 your attention works completely differently. You aren\u2019t just making the body operate the iron while your mind goes elsewhere. You\u2019re attending closely to the fabric, finding and smoothing the wrinkles, appreciating the act itself for its own merits, including its purpose of serving Future Self. When you do things this way, you don\u2019t feel a need to put on a podcast.<\/p>\n

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Love, traveling through time<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n

Later on, a new Present Self will inherit nicely ironed clothes. While he\u2019s wearing them, feeling loved, Present Self is inclined towards doing things in the same way. It only feels right.<\/p>\n

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How to leave yourself a large inheritance in a short time<\/h2>\n

You create a large and lasting inheritance every time you pull off a personal goal. That\u2019s what personal goals are.<\/p>\n

Achieving goals is always a matter of Present Self doing small things for Future Self, consistently, that add up to a big outcome.<\/p>\n

Most of us do basically the opposite: as a rule, we leave our aspirations on Future Self\u2019s desk.<\/p>\n

However, only Present Self can achieve goals, and Present Self isn\u2019t doing them. So all that happens is we inherit the same unsatisfied ambitions year after year.<\/p>\n

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Still sitting on Future Self\u2019s desk<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n

One Big Win<\/a> is an eight-week program where you pick one personal goal, and complete it in short, focused sessions.<\/p>\n

People use it to finish school, write books, build things, and learn skills. <\/p>\n

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The eight weeks will pass regardless! Future Self will love you back for it.<\/p>\n

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