{"id":7055841,"date":"2026-09-03T12:31:54","date_gmt":"2026-09-03T12:31:54","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/peraltafinancing.com\/uncategorized\/im-an-anxious-flyer-this-is-how-i-cope-with-a-long-haul-flight\/"},"modified":"2026-09-03T12:31:54","modified_gmt":"2026-09-03T12:31:54","slug":"im-an-anxious-flyer-this-is-how-i-cope-with-a-long-haul-flight","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fivemor.com\/?p=7055841","title":{"rendered":"I’m An Anxious Flyer. This Is How I Cope With a Long Haul Flight."},"content":{"rendered":"


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To be perfectly honest, I\u2019m still trying to feel my way through this one. Because every time I board a plane, I have to quell a near-constant flutter of panic in my stomach; a myriad of catastrophic thoughts careening through my mind; and a tendency to break out in a cold sweat at the tiniest hint of turbulence.<\/p>\n

Also I need to pee literally all the time.<\/p>\n

What\u2019s weird is that I\u2019m not alone in this. The more people I tell about my flight anxieties, the more I learn that it\u2019s actually really common to feel nervous, anxious and generally scared when onboard a plane. It\u2019s easy to blame anxious flyer syndrome on a never-ending news cycle which always has some kind of inexplicable plane crash in recent memory \u2013 but it goes deeper than that. A fear of flying is fundamentally about having a total lack of control: and for me, I panic the most about being helplessly stuck in a \u2018high-octane situation\u2019 like a plane crash or a terrorist attack.<\/p>\n

For that reason, whenever I step inside a plane I feel like I\u2019m reconciling myself to the very real possibility of never coming out alive.<\/p>\n

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The main thing which triggers my anxiety is turbulence.<\/h2>\n

The first time I properly noticed my flight anxiety was after two difficult flights quite close together. One involved three hours of near-constant turbulence which rocked the plane so much the other passengers were screaming and crying. The other had a sudden drop which caused possessions to fly out of the seat pockets while people banged their heads on the panels \u2013 and we had to land the plane straight away because the windscreen was cracked.<\/p>\n

Although neither of these flights were life threatening they clearly made a significant impact on me, because as soon as I feel turbulence I suddenly feel like the plane\u2019s about to plummet, and I\u2019m about to die.<\/p>\n

How do I know I\u2019m getting anxious? Because my chest gets tight and my breathing gets shallow. Because I find myself planting both feet firmly on the ground, gripping the armrests, tightening my seatbelt as I look around the cabin at other passengers. Because I crane my neck to see through the windows, as if the sight of white clouds and the plane\u2019s wing will help calm me down.<\/p>\n

The most frustrating thing about my anxiety attacks is that I don\u2019t have any conscious handle on my reactions. It\u2019s like my body responds before my mind has a chance to; jumping from zero to a hundred in less time than it takes for me to even register that we\u2019re in a patch of turbulence!<\/p>\n\n

Read more: how anxiety challenges the way I travel<\/a><\/span><\/h4>\n\n
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For a long time I employed my own \u2018fail-safe\u2019 tactics to alleviate my anxiety. Looking back, they\u2019re more like superstitions than anything else \u2013 like having to whisper a particular mantra to myself as the plane took off, or sitting by the window because middle seats make me feel claustrophobic.<\/p>\n

After a lot of therapy, I\u2019ve understood that these behaviours actually make my flights feel more pressured and stressful, as there\u2019s every chance that I\u2019ll make myself more panicked if one of these \u2018safety mechanisms\u2019 hasn\u2019t happened. I\u2019ve also begrudgingly accepted that it doesn\u2019t matter where my anxiety stems from (probably because it\u2019s yet another thing I\u2019d like to blame on the grief of my parents\u2019 deaths<\/a><\/span><\/strong>). The origin of a fear doesn\u2019t matter as much as actually working towards a solution.<\/p>\n

Luckily, there are a lot of ways to counteract flight anxiety \u2013 so here are a few of my tried and tested tips.<\/h3>\n\n

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Preparing for anxiety before your flight<\/h2>\n

Now that I know how anxious flying can make me, I like to prepare for \u2018my perfect flight\u2019 \u2013 which is basically the calmest and most sleep-filled journey possible.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t drink coffee on the day of the flight.<\/strong><\/h4>\n

Part of my airport ritual always used to include buying a coffee for the flight \u2013 I thought it\u2019d help me get some work done onboard, but it only served to make me feel more jittery and panicked. As you might imagine, when I experimented with not drinking coffee on a flight I realised that having any caffeine in my system just makes it easier for my panic receptors to spike.<\/p>\n

Now I actually take it a step further and avoid drinking coffee at all on a flight day \u2013 it could be a placebo, but it seems to help me!<\/p>\n

Wear compression socks.<\/strong><\/h4>\n

My mum used to get varicose veins so she\u2019d often wear compression socks on flights. Yet I\u2019d never considered wearing them myself until a friend recommended I try it before my long-haul flight to Japan. Compressions socks increase blood flow and stop your legs from swelling, which is a good idea during twelve hours in the air \u2013 and weirdly enough I felt more secure when wearing them.<\/span><\/p>\n

Get cosy<\/strong>.<\/h4>\n

Being in constrictive clothing just makes me feel a bit more on edge, so I always wear leggings or tracksuit bottoms, a loose-fitting top and a comfy hoodie when I\u2019m on a plane.<\/p>\n

Comfy clothing also makes it easier to fall asleep \u2013 the ultimate goal for me on any flight, as I can just sleep straight through the anxiety! \u2013 but I usually get chilly when sleeping on planes. As a result, I make sure I can easily access extra layers like a coat or scarf so I can quickly grab them before I lose that dozy feeling.<\/p>\n

Get a good neck pillow.<\/strong><\/h4>\n

I\u2019ve bought neck pillows at airports before and never found one I particularly liked (or one I didn\u2019t end up losing). Just before my Japan trip I bought myself a Huzi Infinity Pillow<\/a><\/span><\/strong> and although it was a risky move and looks somewhat ridiculous I actually love it!<\/p>\n

This pillow is basically an infinity scarf made of cushiony material. It can be used a dozen different ways: knotted up in a bundle, double-looped around your neck like a scarf, looped around your back for a bit of lower-back support \u2013 and you can even tuck your arms into it. The material is really soft, a bit like a duvet, and it also works as a substitute pillow for any nights of your trip where the provided pillows are less than appealing (which often seems to happen to me).<\/p>\n

Seeing as I find it near-impossible to get comfy on flights and move positions all the time, this pillow really made sense for me. I\u2019ve only used it on two long-haul flights so far but I got a good six hours sleep on each so it seems to do the trick!<\/p>\n

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Bring earplugs and an eye mask.\u00a0<\/strong><\/h4>\n

As someone who needs silence to sleep properly, I can\u2019t board a plane without knowing I have earplugs or in-ear headphones. Add an eye mask into the mix and there\u2019s even more chance I\u2019ll be able to drift off to sleep.<\/p>\n

Make a calming music playlist.<\/h4>\n

I used to just play my music on shuffle, but recently realised how much more therapeutic it can be to have solely calming music on a low volume as I\u2019m drifting off to sleep on a plane.<\/p>\n

Download some good podcasts.<\/h4>\n

If I\u2019m not tired enough for full sleep, listening to a podcast is a pretty good distraction from my anxiety: I\u2019m involved in a storyline but can still look around the cabin. Plus I can listen with my eyes closed which is always a good thing!<\/p>\n

What podcasts you listen to totally depends on your taste, but I find that either fascinating or funny podcasts are perfect for my flight anxiety. I got through multiple episodes of \u2018My Dad Wrote A Porno\u2019 when flying to Japan!<\/p>\n

Download some meditation apps.<\/h4>\n

There are so many meditation apps with recorded sessions specifically for flight anxiety \u2013 my preferred app is Headspace.\u00a0Make sure you\u2019ve set them up and downloaded your sessions beforehand as they often require an internet connection to work.<\/p>\n

Do some research about your particular flight anxiety.<\/strong><\/h4>\n

Because turbulence is my main anxiety trigger, I\u2019ve read numerous articles in an effort to debunk that fear. Turbulence is just like hitting speed bumps in a car, or sailing over rough waves in a boat. Most importantly, no planes have ever crashed due to turbulence. I try to keep that fact in mind as it does help to calm me down\u00a0when I\u2019m getting panicked.<\/p>\n

Ask your doctor for anti-anxiety medication.<\/h4>\n

After my dad died I found it really hard to sleep, so my doctor prescribed me a low dose of Diazepam. Turns out this pill is also really helpful for calming down pre-flight nerves, so if I\u2019m getting really worried before a long-haul flight I\u2019ll take a Diazepam just before boarding in the hopes that it\u2019ll relax me.<\/p>\n

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Dealing with anxiety during your flight<\/h2>\n

Choose a good seat.<\/strong><\/h4>\n

For fellow turbulence-haters, sitting at the front of the plane is the least bumpy spot \u2013 and if you\u2019re scared about a plane crash, seats near the wings are statistically the safest. I tend to feel claustrophobic in a middle seat so usually ask for a window, as looking out at the view helps to calm me down.<\/p>\n

Watch calm movies.<\/strong><\/h4>\n

Most long haul flights have an extensive list of movies to watch during the flight. I tend to opt for the calmer end of the movie spectrum: the comedies, rom-coms and Pixar films like \u2018Secret Life of Pets\u2019 and \u2018Inside Out\u2019.<\/p>\n

I used to watch anything which appealed to me, but on one flight I watched \u2018The Hunger Games\u2019 and we hit a patch of turbulence right when an explosively dramatic scene started. It took ages for my anxiety to calm down, and I even started imagining that dramatic movie scenes would invoke the turbulence\u2026 Not exactly a helpful thought.<\/p>\n

Watch the flight attendants<\/strong>.<\/h4>\n

One of my favourite tactics is to keep an eye on how the flight attendants are behaving during the flight. Chances are that while you\u2019re interpreting a situation as panic-worthy they\u2019re being calm and breezy, and noticing that should de-escalate your anxiety. (That said, the downside of focusing your attention on someone else\u2019s behaviour is that when they actively look scared it could make your anxiety even worse..!)<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve also heard nervous flyers say they\u2019ve mentioned their fears to the attendants. I\u2019ve never done this but I imagine it\u2019d be quite bolstering to feel like someone \u2018official\u2019 is keeping an eye on you.<\/p>\n

Drink some alcohol<\/strong>!<\/h4>\n

I know, I know \u2013 there are plenty of articles which say you should avoid alcohol on flights because it\u2019s dehydrating. But there\u2019s no denying that a couple of Bloody Marys makes my anxiety a lot easier to deal with.\u00a0That way I still feel the turbulence but I just don\u2019t care as much as before.<\/p>\n\n

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What to do when your flight anxiety gets triggered<\/h2>\n

Come up with some mantras to help you.\u00a0<\/strong><\/h4>\n

About an hour into my return flight from Japan we hit a bumpy patch of turbulence which took me by surprise. All the usual feelings bubbled up inside and I could sense the tears pricking my eyelids \u2013 but I looked at myself in the window reflection and began to whisper, \u201cYou have power over this.\u201d <\/strong>I didn\u2019t mean I actually had<\/span> any power relating to the plane or the turbulence, but I did have power over my own mental thought process. It\u2019s not necessary to feel that anxiety. And sometimes reminding yourself of that can be enough to bring you out.<\/p>\n

Another mantra which really helped me was actually delivered by the captain over the intercom. I heard, \u201cThe turbulence will not affect the safety of the aircraft\u201d four times during my long-haul Japan flights\u00a0and I cannot tell you the relief it gave me. Turns out I really appreciate being told that someone has control over the situation even if I don\u2019t!<\/p>\n

Analyse the scene around you with the \u201854321 method\u2019.<\/strong><\/h4>\n

There\u2019s a grounding method called \u201854321\u2019 which I\u2019ve often used during a panic attack. By engaging with all five senses you essentially distract yourself from the thing that\u2019s making you anxious: look for five things you can see, four things you can touch, three things you can hear, two things you can smell and one thing you can taste.<\/p>\n

I try to take in as much detail as possible about the passengers around me \u2013 the colours and types of clothes they\u2019re wearing, the books they\u2019re reading, the way they\u2019ve tied their shoes. The more I observe, the less prominent my anxious thoughts become. And the more often I practice this in the midst of feeling anxious, the more I\u2019m training my brain to understand that it\u2019s ok to relax!<\/p>\n

Breathe through it.<\/h4>\n

Like everything in mental health, coping with flight anxiety is all about the breath. Inhaling through your nose and exhaling through your mouth as slowly as possible is the easiest way to calm yourself down.<\/p>\n\n

Read more: the self-care strategies I use to improve my mental health<\/a><\/span><\/h4>\n\n
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Anxiety is worrying about the \u2018what-if\u2019. Don\u2019t predict what hasn\u2019t happened yet!<\/h2>\n

The biggest learning curve for my flight anxiety actually happened on my return flight from Japan. As the plane bumped and shuddered its way through the turbulence I suddenly had a lightning bolt of realisation: that at some point in the past I\u2019d convinced myself that turbulence equals disaster and death, and therefore I was predicting a totally hypothetical future with every jolt.<\/p>\n

What I should be doing is focusing solely on the present. Nothing else. Until there\u2019s actually a disaster to confront, I simply don\u2019t need to engage with my catastrophic thoughts. Harder than it sounds, I know. But I\u2019m getting there.<\/p>\n

Do you have any tips to combat flight anxiety? Let me know in the comments!<\/em><\/h3>\n\n

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