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Practical Steps to Reduce Your Load<\/b><\/h2>\nStep 1: Start by Looking at Everything You Are Carrying<\/b><\/h2>\n
Before you start looking for ways to organise your life better, take a few minutes to look at the various things that are currently making you feel tired.<\/span><\/p>\nGrab a notebook or open the notes app on your phone. Write down all the things that you are responsible for managing in your life right now. There is no need to make the list look neat. Write down cooking, cleaning, laundry, grocery shopping, school communication, homework, children\u2019s activities, appointments, birthdays, bills, clothes, meal planning, household supplies, work responsibilities, family events, travel planning, and emotional support.<\/span><\/p>\nWrite as many of these as you can think of. You might be surprised at how many there are. However, this is not a bad thing. This list will allow you to get a better idea of your current life and what might be eliminated to improve your load.<\/span><\/p>\nThen take each responsibility and ask yourself four questions:<\/span><\/p>\n\n- Who notices that this needs to be done?<\/span><\/li>\n
- Who plans it?<\/span><\/li>\n
- Who actually does it?<\/span><\/li>\n
- Who checks to ensure that it has been done?<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
If the answer to each of these questions is \u201cme,\u201d then you\u2019ve likely found one of your mental load\u2019s responsibilities. Recognizing them is the first step to changing them.<\/span><\/p>\nStep 2: Accept That Not Everything Needs to Be Done Perfectly<\/b><\/h3>\n
For most mothers, it\u2019s difficult to accept that not everything needs to be done perfectly. Some tasks and responsibilities for mothers do require more effort than others. For example, your children need to be fed, there are deadlines for school that need to be met, medication needs to be taken, and bills need to be paid.<\/span><\/p>\nBut other things can wait. You do not have to cook a meal every evening. Your laundry does not have to be done every day. Your child does not have to have a perfect study area.<\/span><\/p>\nOrganize your tasks into three categories:<\/b><\/p>\n\n- Category<\/span><\/li>\n
- What it means<\/span><\/li>\n
- Practical Example<\/span><\/li>\n
- Must Do<\/span><\/li>\n
- Important for health and wellbeing<\/span><\/li>\n
- Meals, medication<\/span><\/li>\n
- Helpful<\/span><\/li>\n
- Makes life easier but not essential<\/span><\/li>\n
- Meal preparation<\/span><\/li>\n
- Nice to Have<\/span><\/li>\n
- Good if you have time<\/span><\/li>\n
- Perfect home and spotless rooms<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
This doesn\u2019t mean that you should no longer care for your home and your family. It simply means that you should no longer waste your best energy on doing so. Sometimes the best thing is the best thing \u2013 good enough!<\/span><\/p>\nStep 3: Your Home Is Allowed to Look Lived In<\/b><\/h3>\n
It\u2019s okay for your house to be messy. There may be toys on the floor, the sink may still have dishes, the laundry basket may be overflowing with items yet to be washed, and there may even be a school bag in the middle of the room. This is the life of a family with young children.<\/span><\/p>\nThink about what your family needs from you. Perhaps they need dinner, perhaps they need their clothes to be dressed appropriately for the following day, perhaps they need help with their homework, perhaps they need your patience, or perhaps they simply need your attention. They do not need you to have perfectly folded towels in the bathroom or a kitchen that is entirely cleaned up after dinner every single night.<\/span><\/p>\nTrying to keep everything perfect can become another source of pressure. Research into the topic of parental burnout has revealed factors like perfectionism, anxiety, the need for control and a lack of social support contribute to the feelings of parents who are burning out.<\/span><\/p>\nIf you have been telling yourself over and over again that the \u201cgood mom\u201d should be the one to keep everything under control in the home, it\u2019s time to start to question that idea. Your children don\u2019t need a perfect home run by an exhausted mother.<\/span><\/p>\nStep 4: Stop Asking for Help and Start Sharing Responsibility<\/b><\/h3>\n
While these two may sound similar, they are significantly different from one another.<\/span><\/p>\nInstead of asking if someone can help with the laundry, ask if they will take full responsibility for the laundry that needs to be done this week.<\/span><\/p>\nInstead of asking if someone can help with dinner, ask if they can handle cooking dinner on Tuesday and Thursday.<\/span><\/p>\nInstead of asking if someone can take the kids to school, ask if they will take responsibility for the school routine on Monday and Wednesday.<\/span><\/p>\nInstead of asking if someone can get groceries, ask if they can manage grocery shopping this week.<\/span><\/p>\nWhen you ask someone to help you with a task, you remain in the position of manager. When someone takes full ownership of a task, it is no longer your task.<\/span><\/p>\nStep 5: Talk to Your Partner Before You Completely Burn Out<\/b><\/h3>\n
If you have a partner, talk to them about the workload. Don\u2019t wait until you\u2019re standing in the kitchen late at night, when you are ready to explode at the frustration of everything you haven\u2019t accomplished.<\/span><\/p>\nInstead, try to have a conversation about what is happening in the relationship:<\/span><\/p>\n\u201cHey, I\u2019ve been feeling overwhelmed by all of this. I don\u2019t think the issue is that I need to become more organised. I feel like I\u2019m shouldering all of the planning in my head, but it\u2019s becoming exhausting. Can we take a look at everything we\u2019ve got and see what we can share?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\nSharing responsibilities does not mean having to divide up the household chores equally. Life is rarely perfectly balanced. It is important that neither person is expected to always do everything themselves.<\/span><\/p>\nStep 6: Let Other People Do Things Differently<\/b><\/h3>\n
This is where delegation of tasks can become difficult. You ask another person to take care of a task for you but they do it in a different manner than you would have performed it.<\/span><\/p>\nYour first thought may be, \u201cThis is why I usually do it myself.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\nHowever, before taking the task back yourself, consider whether the other person completed the task altogether \u2013 or simply performed it in a different way. Perhaps they do the towels a different way. Perhaps they pack the lunchbox a different way. Perhaps they do not load the dishwasher the way you usually do it.<\/span><\/p>\nIf it\u2019s unsafe, tell them what to change. If it\u2019s simply different from what you\u2019re used to, let them be different. Otherwise, delegation doesn\u2019t work. Ultimately, you have to give them the opportunity to have their way so that you can truly delegate. Otherwise, you\u2019ll always be on top of things mentally.<\/span><\/p>\nStep 7: Let Your Children Contribute Too<\/b><\/h3>\n
Allow your children to contribute to the household too. As they grow, allow them to take on tasks according to their capability:<\/span><\/p>\nYounger children can be taught to put their toys away, put their clothes in the laundry basket, and place their books on the shelf.<\/span><\/p>\nChildren who are attending school can be tasked with putting their bags and shoes in their room, setting the dining table for lunch, and keeping their sleeping area neat and tidy.<\/span><\/p>\n-Older children and teens can be given more responsibility for their own laundry, cooking meals, cleaning the house, and organizing their school supplies.<\/span><\/p>\nThe purpose of this type of task isn\u2019t to teach children to deal with the problems of adults. Rather, it teaches them that a family functions as a team, and that the mother doesn\u2019t have to clean up after everybody else.<\/span><\/p>\nStep 8: Have a \u201cBare Minimum\u201d Day for Difficult Days<\/b><\/h3>\n
Some days are simply not as great as others. Perhaps one or more children are sick, perhaps you slept badly the past few nights, perhaps you\u2019ve had problems at work, or perhaps you have a headache. On these types of days, create a bare minimum version of the routine:<\/span><\/p>\nNormal Day: Cook meals, work, clean the house, exercise, do laundry, help with homework, prepare for the next day.<\/span><\/p>\nDifficult Day: There will be a difficult day when you have to feed everyone simply, deal with urgent work, make sure everyone is safe, do some basic cleanup of the kitchen, and get some rest.<\/span><\/p>\nThe laundry can wait. The cupboard can stay messy. Dinner can be scrambled eggs or the leftovers from the prep for lunch.<\/span><\/p>\nA difficult day is just a difficult day. It is not a failure.<\/span><\/p>\nStep 9: Make Meals Easier<\/b><\/h3>\n
Cooking can take up a lot of mental space in the mind of even the most organized of mothers and fathers.<\/span><\/p>\nWhy not create a list of the meals that the family loves? Perhaps dal and rice, roti and vegetables, khichdi, or even pasta for the kids.<\/span><\/p>\n\n- Repeat meals without guilt.<\/span><\/li>\n
- Use leftovers intentionally.<\/span><\/li>\n
- Batch cook extra portions when possible.<\/span><\/li>\n
- Rely on convenient options when time is tight.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
A meal doesn\u2019t suddenly become more valuable if you spent two hours preparing it.<\/span><\/p>\nStep 10: Stop Waiting for Everything to Be Finished Before You Rest<\/b><\/h3>\n
You will never find time to rest if you wait until everything is done before you take a breath.<\/span><\/p>\nRight now, make time for a few simple tasks:<\/b><\/p>\n\n- Drink your tea without doing any other tasks at the same time.<\/span><\/li>\n
- Take a short 10-minute walk outside.<\/span><\/li>\n
- Read a few pages of a book or stretch.<\/span><\/li>\n
- Sit quietly without picking up your phone.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
Even fifteen minutes can give you a chance to breathe. Taking a break from the routine isn\u2019t for rewards \u2013 it\u2019s for your continued ability to do the activities you love.<\/span><\/p>\nStep 11: Learn to Say No Without a Long Explanation<\/b><\/h3>\n
We often place ourselves in a overwhelmed state by finding ourselves in the position of having to say yes to things we would rather not do out of guilt. Before we agree to anything, we can ask ourselves if we have the capacity to do so.<\/span><\/p>\nSimple ways to set boundaries:<\/b><\/p>\n\n- \u201cI won\u2019t be able to take that on this week.\u201d<\/span><\/li>\n
- \u201cI already have too much going on right now.\u201d<\/span><\/li>\n
- \u201cLet me check my schedule before I commit.\u201d<\/span><\/li>\n
- \u201cNo, I can\u2019t do that this time.\u201d<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
You don\u2019t have to write a long paragraph to explain why you\u2019re setting this boundary. It\u2019s not rude to set boundaries around your time. It\u2019s honest communication about your limits.<\/span><\/p>\nStep 12: Manage \u201cMom Guilt\u201d<\/b><\/h3>\n
Often, when you take time for yourself, guilt will come up in your mind telling you that you should be doing something for your children instead. Taking care of yourself does not mean you care for your family any less.<\/span><\/p>\nWhen guilt strikes, remind yourself: \u201cMy family matters, and I matter too.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\nSolutions for Specific Family Systems:<\/b><\/h2>\nIf You\u2019re a Single Mom<\/b><\/h3>\n
Since working with a partner is out of the question, the focus should shift to support groups and simplifying as much of your daily routine as humanly possible.<\/span><\/p>\nSupport Groups<\/b><\/h3>\n
Instead of doing it all yourself, find other single parents in your area whom you can lean on for support.<\/span><\/p>\nSimplifying Your Routine<\/b><\/h3>\n
Cook batch meals for the week to eliminate the prep work daily. Also, avoid the nonessential social commitments that might otherwise derail your efforts to care for your family.<\/span><\/p>\nFocus on what will make you and your kids the happiest and healthiest that you can possibly be.<\/span><\/p>\nIf You Live in a Joint Family<\/b><\/h3>\n
While joint families share many responsibilities, they may all vie for your attention as well.<\/span><\/p>\nSpecific Requests<\/b><\/h3>\n
Instead of asking someone \u201cCan someone help me?\u201d try asking \u201cCan you take my kid to soccer?\u201d or \u201cCan you watch the kids while I run an errand?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\nHome Responsibilities<\/b><\/h3>\n
Just because you are always at home does not mean you are responsible for all of their household tasks.<\/span><\/p>\nRecognizing When You Need More Support<\/b><\/h2>\n
There is a big difference between having a stressful week and struggling with your mental health on an ongoing basis. If you are struggling with any of the following, it is time to reach out to a healthcare or mental health professional:<\/span><\/p>\n\n- Sadness, extreme exhaustion or anxiety that you struggle with daily<\/span><\/li>\n
- Losing interest in the activities you love<\/span><\/li>\n
- Changes in your sleep, appetite or daily functioning<\/span><\/li>\n
- Feeling hopeless, worthless or struggling with postpartum depression<\/span><\/li>\n
- Harming yourself or your baby<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
If you are having thoughts of self-harm or hurting your child, please seek urgent professional medical support for yourself and your baby.<\/span><\/p>\nSeeking professional support for your mental health is not a sign of failure in dealing with depression. It is a sign of strength and a proactive step you can take to take care of yourself and your family.<\/span><\/p>\nAvoiding Mistakes That Maintain Overwhelm<\/b><\/p>\n\n- Trying to fix everything at once<\/span>
<\/span>Start with one area of your life.<\/span><\/li>\n- Supervising delegated tasks<\/span>
<\/span>Let others do the tasks they are responsible for.<\/span><\/li>\n- Creating rigid routines<\/span>
<\/span>Make routines that accommodate for unexpected events.<\/span><\/li>\n