{"id":7033978,"date":"2026-08-08T18:22:20","date_gmt":"2026-08-08T18:22:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/peraltafinancing.com\/uncategorized\/your-situationship-doesnt-care-about-you-you-just-have-low-self-esteem-words-by-mul\/"},"modified":"2026-08-08T18:22:20","modified_gmt":"2026-08-08T18:22:20","slug":"your-situationship-doesnt-care-about-you-you-just-have-low-self-esteem-words-by-mul","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fivemor.com\/?p=7033978","title":{"rendered":"Your situationship doesn\u2019t care about you. You just have low self esteem. \u2013 Words By Mul"},"content":{"rendered":"


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Mainly for the girls.<\/strong><\/em><\/h6>\n
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What is a situationship?<\/p>\n

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\u201dA situationship is a romantic relationship that lacks clear definitions or commitment, to that end, a situationship is different from a booty call, since it tends to breed \u201cintense feelings\u201d and \u201cemotional intimacy.<\/a>\u201d\u2019<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

He texted you at 10:03pm, and you\u2019re smiling. \u201dIs he going to get me anything for Valentine\u2019s Day?\u201d, mind you, something you should never have to wonder. When you really think about it, plans would have been made a week prior\u2026<\/p>\n

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Let\u2019s not get situationship and friends-with-benefits mixed up. With FWB (Friends with Benefits), there\u2019s an agreement that comes with it; usually, you have a conversation beforehand, and you get on with your day. There is almost a thin line with situtuationships. One thing is, 9 times out of 10, they don\u2019t really care about you, and you are in fact an afterthought.<\/p>\n

The other difference here is that you\u2019re stuck in a wishful-thinking state; you have to look inward and work on that nervous system. The nervous system..I will be honest with you: till this day, I struggle with it, but the more you work on it, the easier it gets.<\/p>\n

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When the\u00a0nervous system\u00a0is regulated, relationships become safer and more authentic. Communication deepens because both individuals can remain present rather than defensive or withdrawn. Regulation allows for empathy, patience, and trust, which are all important in relational healing.<\/a><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Situationships, in my opinion, are pure delusion and a waste of time. One person says, \u201cLet\u2019s just be physically intimate.<\/em>\u201d The other agrees only<\/em> in hopes that things will change, and that rarely, if ever, happens. You\u2019re selling yourself short. 6 months in, you\u2019re wondering, \u201cWhy hasn\u2019t he taken me out on a date yet?\u201d \u201dWhy hasn\u2019t he asked me to be his girlfriend yet?\u201d, \u2019cause you give him everything someone in a relationship would, so why would he? You settled for the bare minimum, and nothing will change. This is the reality.<\/p>\n

So I ask you; Why do you keep going back to them? What do you see in them that you don\u2019t see in yourself? <\/h4>\n

You know my favourite thing to say is \u201dwe accept the love we think we deserve,<\/a> \u201d having written about it and \u2026so are you now telling me \u201dHey Mulenga, yeah, so he only texts me in the evening, rarely makes plans, but you know\u2026I like him, so it\u2019s okay.<\/em>\u201d..so you\u2019re telling me this is the love you think you deserve?<\/p>\n

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I\u2019m going to hold your hands with a napkin when I say this: Some people simply want the bragging rights of saying they have been with you. You are wasting your youth & you deserve better than that. Doesn\u2019t matter whether you are 19 or 35. You have to realise that the envy you may feel of others, many people are settling for various reasons;\u00a0<\/p>\n