Many people struggle with exercising self-control. \u00a0Let\u2019s be honest\u2014it doesn\u2019t just come naturally for most of us \u2013 even Christians. \u00a0Whether it\u2019s controlling our temper, resisting temptation, or staying disciplined in our spiritual habits, we all face moments when our willpower feels like it\u2019s running on empty.<\/p>\n
But as Christians, we\u2019re not left to tackle this alone. God\u2019s Word offers practical wisdom and spiritual guidance to help us grow in this vital area. In this post, we\u2019ll take a look at seven essential, Bible-based ways to develop more self-control.<\/strong><\/p>\n First, I\u2019ll start with a brief recap of the first part of this post series 45 Bible Verses About Self-Control, <\/a><\/strong>in which we learned three key things the Bible teaches about self-control and the three key areas in which we should exercise self-control.<\/p>\n The Bible teaches that God wants us to practice self-control, that He has equipped every Christian to exercise self-control through the power of His Spirit, and that a lack of self-control has consequences.\u00a0 The three key areas in which we are to exercise self-control are our words, thoughts, and actions.<\/p>\n In light of what Scripture teaches us about why self-control is important, let\u2019s dive into seven specific ways in which we can develop more self-control as Christians.<\/p>\n Secular culture says do whatever makes you feel good or happy.\u00a0 After all, why should we deprive ourselves of what pleases us?\u00a0<\/p>\n Now pause and think about that for just a minute.\u00a0 Ask yourself, what would happen if you literally did everything that makes you feel good or happy?<\/p>\n For me, that might mean not showing up for work some days, eating an entire large pizza all by myself, drinking an entire bottle of wine (or two) in one sitting, staying in bed all day, or going on an online Amazon shopping spree with my savings.\u00a0 All of which would feel great in the moment.\u00a0 However, it\u2019s the possible consequences that we often overlook.<\/p>\n And a lack of self-control always has negative consequences, which is why our feelings should not control our behavior.\u00a0<\/p>\n The Bible teaches the exact opposite of what secular culture says:<\/p>\n God\u2019s Word is clear:\u00a0 Our hearts are deceitful and desperately wicked by nature!\u00a0 Therefore, not only should we NOT follow our hearts, but we should make it a point to guard our hearts<\/a><\/strong> and learn to follow God\u2019s ways instead of our own.<\/p>\n Step one to developing more self-control as a Christian is denouncing the lie of the enemy that we should just \u201cfollow our heart\u201d and do whatever we feel like doing in the moment. If you lack self-control, it typically shows up in multiple areas of your life (health, finances, relationships, etc.).<\/p>\n Oftentimes, those areas of our lives in which we want to be able to just \u201cfollow our hearts\u201d are the very areas in which we most lack self-control.\u00a0 And to develop self-control, we must identify those areas.<\/p>\n Temptation comes from our own desires, which entice us and drag us away.\u00a0These desires give birth to sinful actions. And when sin is allowed to grow, it gives birth to death.<\/p>\n Temptation comes from our own desires, which entice us and drag us away.\u00a0These desires give birth to sinful actions. And when sin is allowed to grow, it gives birth to death.<\/em><\/p>\n James 1:14-15 NLT<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n So, be honest, what areas of your life do you currently lack self-control in?<\/p>\n Is it with your time?\u00a0 Maybe you\u2019re a constant procrastinator, always putting off the important things that should be done today for tomorrow.\u00a0 Instead, you choose to binge-watch Netflix for an entire weekend or scroll through TikTok videos for 8 hours.\u00a0<\/p>\n Do you struggle with maintaining routines?\u00a0 Always starting something new but never being consistent or completing a project?\u00a0<\/p>\n Maybe you lack self-control with your money. Do you make a lot of impulse purchases online, shop well above your means, or constantly exceed your budget every month?<\/p>\n Do you neglect your personal health often?\u00a0 This could manifest in various ways, such as irregular sleep patterns, always eating out more than you eat at home, or always preferring to lounge around instead of being active in any way.<\/p>\n Are you always rushing and running late for things?<\/p>\n Do you often express yourself without thinking first and lash out with whatever emotion that stirs within you?<\/p>\n Do you often give in to whatever urges arise without thinking about the consequences (i.e., overeating, excessive alcohol consumption, sexual urges, etc.)?<\/p>\n Whatever area in which you lack self-control (and it may be several), you must identify it.\u00a0 And once you identify the areas of concern, you should also identify your triggers.<\/p>\n This is a good starting point to help you acknowledge, understand, and evaluate yourself, so that you can make some intentional choices to make the necessary changes and practice responding in healthier ways.<\/p>\n Willpower is defined as control exerted to do something or restrain impulses.\u00a0 It\u2019s something we can muster up to do the things we need to do, or to keep us from doing the things we don\u2019t want to do.<\/p>\n Either way, it is 100% dependent upon us<\/em>.\u00a0 Everyone has the capacity to exercise some willpower to a certain degree.\u00a0 However, because willpower is limited in that it can also be impacted by various factors and even depleted, willpower can only get you so far.<\/p>\n This is why relying solely on your own willpower to develop self-control will ultimately always fail.<\/p>\n As Christians, we must remember that we are equipped with the Holy Spirit to exercise self-control.\u00a0 And it is ONLY when we walk in (live by, rely on, surrender to) the power of the Holy Spirit that we can truly exercise self-control in a way that pleases God.<\/p>\n Although we still have our old sinful nature, as Christians, by the power of the Holy Spirit, we can learn to choose godly behavior, regardless of how we feel:<\/p>\n Those who are dominated by the sinful nature think about sinful things, but those who are controlled by the Holy Spirit think about things that please the Spirit.\u00a0So letting your sinful nature control your mind leads to death. But letting the Spirit control your mind leads to life and peace.\u00a0For the sinful nature is always hostile to God. It never did obey God\u2019s laws, and it never will.\u00a0That\u2019s why those who are still under the control of their sinful nature can never please God. But you are not controlled by your sinful nature. You are controlled by the Spirit if you have the Spirit of God living in you.\u00a0 Therefore, dear brothers and sisters, you have no obligation to do what your sinful nature urges you to do.\u00a0For if you live by its dictates, you will die. But if through the power of the Spirit you put to death the deeds of your sinful nature, you will live.\u00a0<\/em><\/em><\/em><\/p>\n Romans 8:5-9, 12-13 NLT<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n We must first acknowledge (out loud and in our hearts) that we CANNOT live self-controlled lives on our own and that we need God.\u00a0 Then we must learn to actually depend on God every day to do so.\u00a0<\/p>\n What does this look like in everyday life?<\/p>\n It\u2019s being honest with God and talking to Him about the areas in which you lack self-control.\u00a0 It\u2019s learning to quote Scripture in the face of temptation.\u00a0 It\u2019s changing the words you have gotten used to saying to yourself.\u00a0 It\u2019s replacing things like \u2018I just can\u2019t help it\u2019,\u00a0 \u2018I don\u2019t know how to change\u2019, or \u2018this is just how I am\u2019 with the truth of Scripture that says \u201cI can do everything God requires me to do through Christ who strengthens me\u201d (Philippians 4:13).<\/p>\n The only willpower required to develop self-control as a Christian is the willpower to surrender to the power of the Holy Spirit in your life.\u00a0 It\u2019s being willing to say \u2018no\u2019 to the desires of your flesh and \u2018yes\u2019 to what God wants for you.<\/p>\n A habit is\u00a0a settled, regular, and often unconscious behavior or tendency, typically acquired through frequent repetition. Habits can be beneficial or harmful.<\/p>\n Self-control is not just about breaking bad habits or teaching yourself what to say \u2018no\u2019 to.\u00a0 Developing self-control MUST also include replacing the bad habits with good habits and learning what to say \u2018yes\u2019 to.\u00a0<\/p>\n Similarly, the Bible is full of \u201cput on\u201d and \u201cput off\u201d statements, in regard to how God wants us to live for Him.<\/p>\n God doesn\u2019t just provide a list of 100 things for us to stop doing.\u00a0 He tells us why we should stop doing those things (because they are killing us physically and spiritually), and what to replace them with instead.<\/p>\n If food is your area of weakness, it\u2019s time to stop eating out 4 times a week and make it a point to eat in and incorporate some fruits and veggies into your diet.<\/p>\n Struggling with using your time wisely? You made need to replace hours of scrolling on social media with intentional time in God\u2019s Word, prayer, or completing the tasks you\u2019ve been putting off.<\/p>\n If your words are an issue, instead of reacting quickly in frustration, practice pausing, praying, and choosing your words carefully before responding.<\/p>\n Are you overspending? Then it\u2019s time to replace impulse purchases with planning ahead\u2014creating a budget, tracking your spending, and giving yourself limits.<\/p>\n If you struggle with negative or anxious thoughts, begin to memorize Scripture so you can replace those thoughts with truth instead of allowing them to run freely in your mind.<\/p>\n The goal is not just to remove what is harmful, but to intentionally build habits that honor God.<\/p>\n When it comes to developing self-control, it\u2019s so important that we don\u2019t underestimate the role of our physical and mental health in the process.<\/p>\n There are many factors that can contribute to a loss of self-control. For some people, it may be caused by stress, tiredness, or even hunger.<\/p>\n Self-care practices<\/a><\/strong> can positively impact self-control by\u00a0reducing stress, improving mood, and enhancing overall well-being, thereby strengthening our ability to resist impulses and make better decisions.<\/p>\n Learning to practice self-care regularly will go a long way when it comes to our mental health and developing self-control.\u00a0 As Christians, let us learn to prioritize proper nutrition, physical exercise, adequate sleep, relaxation, and even laughter<\/a> <\/strong>in our daily lives.<\/p>\n Everyone struggles with self-control from time to time. But when certain patterns\u2014like procrastination, impulsive decisions, or lack of discipline\u2014become consistent, it may be a sign that deeper support is needed.<\/p>\n As Christians, we are not meant to do life alone.\u00a0God often uses other people to help strengthen us, guide us, and hold us accountable\u2014especially in areas where we struggle.\u00a0<\/p>\n One of the most practical ways to grow in self-control is by building a strong accountability and support system.<\/p>\n This might look like:<\/p>\n When we try to handle everything on our own, it\u2019s easy to fall back into old habits. But when we invite others into the process, we gain encouragement, wisdom, and support.<\/p>\n Seeking help is not a sign of weakness\u2014it\u2019s a sign of wisdom and humility.<\/p>\n Developing self-control is not a quick fix\u2014it\u2019s a lifelong process.<\/p>\n In a world that constantly pushes instant results and quick solutions, it\u2019s important to remember that real, lasting change takes time. Many of the struggles we face with self-control are rooted in deeper habits, thought patterns, and emotional responses that have developed over time. Because of that, they won\u2019t disappear overnight.<\/p>\n Instead of trying to change everything at once, focus on starting small and being consistent. Ask yourself, what one area can I begin working on right now? <\/p>\n That could be:<\/p>\n Growth happens step by step. Be patient with yourself as you grow. And don\u2019t fall into the trap of looking for quick fixes that don\u2019t address the root of the issues.<\/p>\n Self-control is developed through consistent, daily choices over time. And like everything else in our Christian journey, it is a process. A process in which the goal should always be to become more like Christ:<\/p>\n I don\u2019t mean to say that I have already achieved these things or that I have already reached perfection. But I press on to possess that perfection for which Christ Jesus first possessed me.\u00a0No, dear brothers and sisters, I have not achieved it, but I focus on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead,\u00a0I press on to reach the end of the race and receive the heavenly prize for which God, through Christ Jesus, is calling us.<\/em><\/p>\n Philippians 3:12-14 NLT<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n Self-control is not just about disciplining yourself <\/a><\/strong>to do the right things\u2014it\u2019s about obedience to God.<\/p>\n It\u2019s about choosing, moment by moment, to live according to God\u2019s truth instead of our feelings, impulses, or habits. And while this isn\u2019t always easy, it is one of the most important areas of growth in the Christian life.<\/p>\n Every time you pause instead of reacting, resist temptation, and choose God\u2019s way over your own, you are growing and becoming more like Christ.\u00a0 <\/p>\n Start with one area, make one intentional change, and rely on God daily.<\/p>\n And please realize that true self-control isn\u2019t about restriction\u2014it\u2019s actually all about freedom.<\/p>\n Self-control allows us to walk in freedom from impulsive decisions and enslavement to our emotions. And therefore, freedom to live a life that honors God with clarity, purpose, and peace.<\/p>\n Developing self-control leads to healthier relationships with ourselves, others, and God.\u00a0 So, let us seek to be self-controlled Christians in obedience to God and learn to put an end to unhealthy cycles of behavior that lead to suffering and despair, and enjoy the freedom and peace He intended for us instead.<\/p>\n \n\t\t\t\tSelf-control is not about suppressing who we are and what we want to be.\u00a0 It\u2019s about submitting to the Holy Spirit so that we can become who God created us to be.<\/strong><\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n RELATED POSTS:<\/strong><\/p>\n ABOUT THE AUTHOR:<\/strong><\/p>\n Demetra is a busy, self-employed, single mom who loves Jesus and is a fanatic about prioritizing her time with God!\u00a0 She created In the Mirror of God<\/em><\/strong> <\/a>to help other Christian women learn how regularly looking into our spiritual mirror (the Bible) equips us to cultivate a deeper relationship with God, think biblically about everything, conquer the challenges of everyday life, and truly enjoy life to the fullest, the way God intended.\u00a0 Go here to learn more about her story,<\/a><\/strong> or visit her contact page<\/a><\/strong> to send a quick message.<\/strong><\/p>\n Encourage someone else today by sharing:<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n Many people struggle with exercising self-control. \u00a0Let\u2019s be honest\u2014it doesn\u2019t just come naturally for most of us \u2013 even Christians. \u00a0Whether it\u2019s controlling our temper, resisting temptation, or staying disciplined in our spiritual habits, we all face moments when our willpower feels like it\u2019s running on empty. 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1. Acknowledge that You Can\u2019t Just \u201cFollow Your Heart\u201d<\/h3>\n
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2. Identify the Areas in Which You Lack Self-Control<\/h3>\n
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3. Stop Relying Solely on Your Willpower<\/h3>\n
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4. Replace Bad Habits With Good Habits<\/h3>\n
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5. Practice Self-Care<\/h3>\n
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6. Seek Outside Help When Necessary<\/h3>\n
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7. Understand that Exercising Self-Control is a Life-Long Journey<\/h3>\n
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Self-Control is Obedience and Freedom<\/h2>\n
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