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I recently listened to an episode of The Rich Roll Podcast<\/span><\/span><\/strong> with Jim Murphy.<\/span><\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

The whole episode is so good, but there is one thing in particular Jim said that\u00a0I have thought about every day, multiple times a day since hearing it.<\/p>\n

The idea was this:<\/p>\n

We don\u2019t know what\u2019s best for us outcome-wise.<\/strong><\/p>\n

We don\u2019t know what\u2019s best for us outcome-wise.<\/strong><\/em><\/h3>\n

Wait a second.<\/p>\n

WHAT? My way might not be the best way???<\/p>\n

Listen.<\/p>\n

I come from a looooooong line of hard-headed Swedish women who know how\/when\/what\/where to do EVERYTHING.<\/p>\n

There is one way, which is also obviously the best way.<\/p>\n

This also happens to be the Swedish mom\/grandma\/great grandma way.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s taken me a long time to unlearn this. It will always be a practice for me.<\/p>\n

As athletes and parents, we\u2019re conditioned to believe we know exactly what \u201cbest\u201d looks like.<\/p>\n

Winning. Making the cut. Getting the offer. Getting into that<\/em> school. Landing that<\/em> job. Loading the dishwasher.<\/p>\n

We don\u2019t just want<\/em> those outcomes; we assume they\u2019re necessary for our kids\u2019 success and happiness.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ve got the milestones and timelines and procedures perfectly planned out. You know exactly the best course of action.<\/p>\n

But what if you don\u2019t?<\/p>\n

What if the best thing for your kid right now is to get DQ\u2019d?
What if that rejection is building something that success would actually interrupt?
What if taking time off isn\u2019t the death sentence you believe it to be? What it it\u2019s actually a rebirth?<\/p>\n

What if the universe knows we aren\u2019t ready for that pressure yet? What if it knows there\u2019s more work to be done first?<\/p>\n

This perspective has shook me. In a good way.<\/p>\n

Because when I look back at my own life and at my kids\u2019 lives, the moments that shaped us the most weren\u2019t always (or usually) the ones where everything went according to plan.<\/p>\n

They were the moments that didn\u2019t.<\/p>\n

As parents, we carry an enormous sense of responsibility. And with that responsibility often comes certainty.<\/p>\n

We\u2019re sure we know what\u2019s best for our kids. The right path. The right pace. The right outcome.<\/p>\n

That certainty usually comes from love. We don\u2019t do what we do because we\u2019re trying to mess our kids up.<\/p>\n

We are doing the best that we can. But sometimes our best is not good enough. These moments of disappointment are opportunities for all of us to grow.<\/p>\n

What if our kids\u2019 struggles, setbacks, and detours aren\u2019t disasters, but training grounds?<\/p>\n

What if the path we\u2019re trying so hard to push them toward is actually a cliff?<\/p>\n

Not having something figured out or mastered doesn\u2019t mean they\u2019ll never be ready. Or you\u2019ll never be ready.<\/p>\n

It means there\u2019s still work to be done.<\/p>\n

More resilience to build. More perspective to develop. More internal scaffolding to construct.<\/p>\n

Maybe the delay is the lesson.<\/p>\n

Patience is a hard thing to come by these days. That requires practice, too.<\/p>\n

The next time you or your kid don\u2019t get the result you were hoping for (or planning on), try this before going straight to worst-case-scenario, catastrophizing thinking.<\/p>\n

Pause.<\/p>\n

Then remind yourself:<\/p>\n

Winning might not be the best thing right now. Getting that job might not be the best thing right now. Acing that test, making that cut, getting that promotion\u2026<\/p>\n

All that might not be the best thing right now.<\/p>\n

Maybe you need more practice.<\/p>\n

Maybe there\u2019s something better right around the corner.<\/p>\n

Maybe you missed something.<\/p>\n

Maybe we don\u2019t know what\u2019s best for us outcome-wise.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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