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S<\/span>he savagely lit into herself a few nights ago over blowing a job interview. Thinking about it afterward, she wondered if she was the critic at all. Could it have been someone \u2014 or history \u2014 speaking through her? She used to ask, \u201cDo I have an inner critic?\u201d Now she needs help.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n

Essentially, the inner critic acts as an introjected, critical parental figure. \u00a0 <\/em>Dr. Nelda Andersone<\/p>\n\n


Introduction<\/strong><\/h2>\n

After numerous unpleasant run-ins with my inner critic over the past three months, I began a series on the subject last week. For assistance, I turned to the work of \u00a0Psychology Today <\/em>expert Dr. Nelda Andersone.<\/p>\n

Part one describes the inner critic, including what it can look and sound like. Right after posting, it hit me that readers may want to learn about the inner critic\u2019s origin and purpose. So, let\u2019s do just that, again with the assistance of Dr. Andersone.<\/p>\n

I, for one, look at it as a great opportunity to learn more about myself \u2014 especially that automatic and consciously unaware part. Maybe we look at it the same way?<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s roll.<\/p>\n

Where it all begins<\/strong><\/h2>\n

I\u2019m sure you\u2019re not surprised that Dr. Andersone believes the origin of the inner critic lies in our childhood years. That\u2019s just life in the world of emotional and mental illnesses.<\/p>\n

Research suggests that people with harsh self-critical tendencies (explained in part one<\/a>) often encountered frequent judgments, ridicule, and not a whole lot of positive regard during their childhood years.<\/p>\n

\"Do\"Do<\/p>\n

Aggressive actions and words get the press, but not paying attention and indifference can be just as harmful.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

Parents lead the pack<\/strong><\/h3>\n

The pack of critics includes parents, teachers, siblings, peers \u2014 and societal expectations (which ate me up). But parents lead the pack. And when they\u2019re habitually critical, controlling, demanding, abusive, and\/or indifferent, the (innocent) child stands a great chance of becoming harshly.self-critical.<\/p>\n

From Dr. Andersone\u2026<\/p>\n

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Essentially, the inner critic acts as an introjected, critical parental figure.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

It all makes sense, doesn\u2019t it. Parents are the world to most little ones, and it\u2019s important to understand that when there\u2019s conflict, a child will assign blame to themselves \u2014 they perceive it to be safer.<\/p>\n

Burned into the brain<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Perhaps worst of all, the attitudes and critical stance of the parent(s) get internalized, becoming the child\u2019s inner dialogue. It serves to support the growth of their illusion of safety and control, which even provides a measure of anxiety relief.<\/p>\n

Gradually, the whole works turns into an unnecessary automatic coping mechanism for dealing with life\u2019s challenges. And the scary part is, these early-developed critical and negative evaluations carry a false self-image into adulthood \u2014 where the inner critic often feels more like the authentic adult self.<\/p>\n

And that\u2019s how it\u2019s done. If you know or suspect you have an active and harsh inner critic, does what you\u2019ve read hit home?<\/p>\n

The purpose<\/strong><\/h2>\n
\"Do\"Do<\/p>\n

The Great Protector<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

Internalizing a critic can actually be helpful to a child being raised in a dysfunctional environment. And since <\/p>\n<\/p>\n

The Great Protector
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Andersone submits that the human psyche is organized around avoiding pain. Sincerely believing the person\u2019s survival depends on them, the inner critic takes on the responsibility of managing a person\u2019s life so they don\u2019t have to face emotional pain. Witness our ongoing monitoring of threats and safety precautions.<\/p>\n

When something in the present resembles the pain from early life, you can count on The Great Protector to jump into action. Let\u2019s put it in the context of our friend\u2019s situation. Her inner critic unleashed hell on her\u2026<\/p>\n

The biggest interview of your life and you blew it to smithereens. He didn\u2019t like you, and neither did I. You\u2019d better double down on making yourself marketable \u2014 or else.<\/em><\/p>\n

She had been judged and rejected during the interview. The inner critic wouldn\u2019t have it, so it delivered harsh criticism and control \u2014 even demanding improvement to avoid the same treatment at the next interview \u2014 \u201cor else.\u201d<\/p>\n

As unpleasant as it can be, it\u2019s just how it operates. Andersone believes that under closer examination, it becomes evident that the inner critic is trying to act in the person\u2019s best interest.<\/p>\n

Brutal tactics<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Even though its heart may be in the right place, the inner critic often doesn\u2019t use its head. Unknowingly, it can increase a sense of internal threat, making it more difficult for the person to realize their potential and live a full life.<\/p>\n

According to Andersone, some of its tactics\u2026<\/p>\n