I am generally an upbeat, positive person. Cheerful, encouraging, and hopeful describe me most days.<\/span> Depression is a valid emotion in the cycle of life. Don’t let anyone tell you not to feel sad or depressed. You are a human being, not a robot.\u00a0 However, you can “visit” depression on occasion – just don’t take up permanent “residence” there.<\/i><\/b><\/span><\/p>\n In I Kings 19:1-18 we read about Elijah and his struggles with depression. After God miraculously displayed His divine power on Mount Carmel, Elijah withdrew into the desert armed with a death wish. He hid in a cave and wailed “woe is me” before accusing God of leaving him all alone to fight the heathen foreigners.<\/p>\n King David struggled with depression and feelings of intense sadness more than once. Some of his emotions had to do with blatant sin, while others dealt with fear and rejection. He often questioned God about the whole matter.<\/p>\n Here are some of David’s heartfelt pleas: \u00a0Lord, how long will You look on? Rescue me from their destruction… (Psalm 35:17) \u00a0Lord, all my desire is before You; and my sighing is not hidden from You. (Psalm 38:9) \u00a0Why are you cast down, O my soul? And why are you disquieted within me? (Psalm 42:5) \u00a0Be merciful to me, O God, be merciful to me! For my soul trusts in You. (Psalm 57:1)\u00a0<\/i>Lord, I cry out to You; make haste to me! Give ear to my voice when I cry out to You. (Psalm 141:1)<\/i><\/p>\n It’s okay to cry out to God and raise the question “Why?”<\/span><\/i><\/b><\/p>\n God already knows our struggles and fears. He sees down the road of uncertainty. He is aware of the pitfalls and traps laid by the enemy. He cannot be taken by surprise. Nothing is too difficult for Him to deal with. \u00a0So why do we fret and get ourselves so worked up over things we have little or no control over? What do we do with the intense feelings of sadness and heaviness that blanket our souls? How do we make sense of the heartache and sorrowful countenance?<\/i><\/p>\n So how do we move forward and regain our spiritual footing?<\/b><\/i><\/span><\/p>\n <\/span><\/div>\n![](\"https:\/\/blogger.googleusercontent.com\/img\/b\/R29vZ2xl\/AVvXsEiBzTuRvdQVhC1o-1ipbIN13x3HaM8fAP3RBjvcZ7ALM-MrKOzAYRZq5nQVml9wNFQjdXycjZGhQVIt1ViCEeLJnkBdWCLUHEfs_VQ5Ap8s5fi3yLhyphenhyphenzk8eQ01mZrxrF_U3_wvgDufs6hps\/s1600\/woman+crying.jpg\")
<\/a>\u00a0Sadness is an expression of grief or unhappiness. It often precedes a brief<\/i><\/span><\/b>\u00a0season of depression.<\/i><\/span><\/b><\/p>\n
<\/span>So why do I find myself feeling so sad at times? \u00a0What causes me to well-up inside and become so despondent? \u00a0Why can’t I control my emotions better – especially in the presence of other believers?<\/span>
<\/span>When you live in an\u00a0unequally-yoked marriage<\/i><\/b>, you feel like you just don’t belong in the local church the same way a Christian married couple does. You are essentially a “lone” Christ follower. Your habits and routines are different. Your giving and commitments are different. Your spiritual cadence is different from the other couples. You feel so out-of-step with everyone else. Here is a post I wrote earlier that deals with some of those differences titled \u00a0Are You Missing In Action?<\/a><\/p>\n<\/a><\/div>\n
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<\/span><\/i><\/b>Here are five possible reasons for your sadness…<\/span><\/i><\/b><\/p>\n
<\/span>1.<\/b>\u00a0\u00a0We are grieving the fact that our marriage partner isn’t in sync with us spiritually.\u00a0<\/b>Believers have a spiritual discernment. We are instructed by the Spirit of God. Our unbelieving spouse can’t grasp that concept and they are spiritually blind. Amos 3:3 declares,\u00a0“Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?”<\/i>\u00a0 And Paul says in 2 Corinthians 6:14,\u00a0“For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?”<\/i><\/span>
<\/span>2.<\/b>\u00a0\u00a0We are saddened by the thought that our best efforts haven’t made a substantial difference in their spiritual conversion.<\/b>\u00a0 We have to be realistic here in our expectations. God is the one who draws unbelievers into fellowship with Himself. As Paul says in I Corinthians 3:6,\u00a0“I planted, Apollos watered, but God gave the increase. So then neither he who plants is anything, nor he who waters, but God who gives the increase.”<\/i><\/span>
<\/span>3.<\/b>\u00a0\u00a0We have difficulty processing the fact that our marriage might never improve on the timetable or in the way we think it should.\u00a0<\/b>God has a specific plan for our marriage. He is never in a hurry, and He is never late. The important thing to remember is God wants to do what will bring Him the “most glory” with regards to our mate’s salvation. God has given them His permissive “free will” to choose salvation or to reject it. Our place is to pray for their spiritual enlightenment. (Romans 10:20)<\/span>
<\/span>4.<\/b>\u00a0\u00a0We can’t seem to grasp the thought of differences that may never be reconciled.\u00a0<\/b><\/span>One of the hardest things to do is to examine our own emotions and then take steps to deal with them honestly. My previous post<\/span>\u00a0\u00a0<\/span>Can’t We All Just Get Along?<\/a>\u00a0 has some great pointers to help you stay on track.
<\/span>5<\/b>. \u00a0We reluctantly recognize that depression may visit us for a season.<\/b>\u00a0We must come to grips with the fact that we will have good and bad days, ups and downs, highs and lows. Every marriage experiences “seasons” – and quite often they coincide with major life events, changes, challenges, and family dynamics that we have no control over. Our spouse will not always give us the support we long for. However, you can count on this: Jesus will never leave us or forsake us. (Joshua 1:5)<\/span>
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<\/span>Be practical and proactive. Start by doing the basics: eat right, exercise, and get plenty of sleep. When you feel overwhelmed – take a deep breath and prioritize. Give yourself permission to process sadness and grief. Keep yourself centered on God’s Word. Pray for wisdom and understanding. Reprogram your mind to think on\u00a0“things that are true, noble, just, pure, lovely, of good report, and virtuous”<\/i>\u00a0(Philippians 4:8).<\/span>
<\/span>Don’t worry – and be happy might just be words from a popular song – but they also help to redirect your thoughts. Our Lord Jesus put it this way,\u00a0“And which of you by worrying can add one cubit to his stature? If you then are not able to do the least, why are you anxious for the rest?”<\/span><\/i>\u00a0(Luke 12:25-26).<\/span>
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<\/span>God will help you with your feelings of sadness and depression. Prayer and meditating on His Word brings comfort and security. God is our Wonderful Counselor (Isaiah 9:6).<\/span>
<\/span>Stay well connected with Christian friends. Continue with your small group studies and church activities when you find yourself wanting to withdraw. We were meant to be part of a community of believers. Encourage one another and extend grace even when it is undeserved.<\/span>
<\/span>Each day begins with a clean slate. Every dawn holds new opportunities and possibilities. Today is a good day for a good day…<\/span>
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\nthe reader to embrace God\u2019s promises for their spouse and future together.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span>Visit \u00a0http:\/\/www.spirituallyunevenmarriage.com
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