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You\u2019ve been dating for six months now, and it\u2019s feeling right. He gives you\u00a0butterflies when he walks into the room. You think he could be \u201cthe one.\u201d<\/p>\n

The problem is that you\u2019ve been withholding some information from him.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re not sure if you should even be bringing up such a topic so early on in a relationship \u2013 and quite frankly, this secret has the potential to make your new love interest run for the hills<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

You have $90,000 in student loan debt and $45,000 in credit card debt. You\u2019re not quite sure what his financial situation is, or if yours will scare him away. What do you do?
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Disclose Your Financial Situation, or Forever Hold Your Peace<\/h3>\n

Face it: talking about finances early on in a relationship isn\u2019t sexy, but it\u2019s necessary. Money problems are one of the leading causes of break-ups and divorces. If you\u2019re not open about your finances now, you could be setting yourself up for a lot of stress and heartbreak in the future. The thing with not being honest is that the longer you hide your problems, the harder it\u2019ll be to be open about the whole thing. Many people try to cover things up until one day the situation just blows up in their face.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019ve been beating around the bush when it comes to disclosing your finances, then it\u2019s time to bite the bullet and come out to the open. Here are three ways to go about it.<\/p>\n

#1 \u2013 Keep it Casual<\/h3>\n

During a casual conversation, playfully ask your new love interest about his views on money. If you\u2019re talking about careers, ask him how he feels about student loans. If you\u2019re talking about vacations, vehicles, or any other big-ticket items, ask how he feels about consumer debt.<\/p>\n

Your casual conversation could lead to a long, heartfelt talk in which you openly disclose your financial status.<\/strong> Remember that this is about sharing more than probing, so ask plenty of questions but also disclose a fair bit!<\/p>\n

\"\"\"\"#2 \u2013 Observe<\/h3>\n

You can tell a lot about someone\u2019s financial habits by simply observing what they do. By this point, you\u2019ve probably spent enough time with this person to have a general idea of their money personality<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

For example, she\u2019s a frugal person if you\u2019ve seen her use coupons<\/a>. You might want to ask her about her strategy and learn a thing or two. If she purchases expensive designer jeans at the drop of a hat and charges them to her credit card without much thought, she might have money problems. You won\u2019t know though unless you talk about her money choices with her. And even if she ends up having a spending issue, she might not know it\u2019s a problem unless you help her realize the magnitude of the issue.<\/p>\n

#3 \u2013 Just Bring It Up<\/h3>\n

If you feel that your money issues are enough to put a hold on your new relationship, or that your love interest is the one in money trouble, just bring it up. If money\u2019s an issue that\u2019s been weighing heavily on your mind, it\u2019s better to get everything out in the open.<\/strong> Maybe it could be easily remedied, but nothing will change unless you start addressing the problem.<\/p>\n

This doesn\u2019t have to be awkward either. Try starting a conversation about your future goals. Disclose where you\u2019re at now, and where you want to be in the coming years. Ask the same of your partner.<\/p>\n

There\u2019s quite a bit of chatter about our government possibly canceling student loan debt. You might be thinking that if that were to happen, your debt issue might just disappear all on its own. Still, I encourage you not to wait for your issues to resolve themselves. For one, it may not ever happen. If you already feel uneasy about the situation, don\u2019t let that feeling fester into something much bigger. Share your goals and situation with the one you love now. Don\u2019t delay.<\/p>\n

Keep Your Money Views In Mind<\/h3>\n

Love can be blinding, but debt can be binding too.<\/strong> If you\u2019re on a path to financial freedom \u2013 working hard to earn and save every dollar you get \u2013 then dating someone with major money issues will likely cause a lot of friction for you in the future because your partner\u2019s finances will affect yours no matter how hard you try to keep everything separate.<\/p>\n

Enjoy your new relationship, but<\/strong> make sure that you and your potential partner\u2019s financial paths have similarities. You may not be concerned about money habits now, but they will certainly play a role in the relationship in your future. How would you feel if you were originally planning to retire because you\u2019ve worked hard and diligently saved for decades, only to find out that your significant other managed to accumulate $150,000 in debt?<\/p>\n

It\u2019s hard, but be completely honest about the details whatever your situation is. When it comes to relationships and money, honesty will always be the most important factor.<\/p>\n

How has money affected your romantic relationships?<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

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