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<\/p>\nPublisher\u2019s Note \u2013 <\/u><\/em> The holidays are upon us! Having focused my practice the last 40 years on family law and divorces, I know how difficult this time of year can be for families trying to create stress free holidays after divorce. Often there are lots of crazy pressures coming from all directions!<\/p>\n That is one reason that every year a write or repost a blog with some tips on dealing with these holiday pressures. (If you are interested in reading more of them, enter \u201choliday\u201d in the search bar above). This is a repost of one I wrote and posted on December 9, 2023.<\/p>\n I am a HUGE proponent of peaceful divorce uncoupling and helping parties\u2019 work together to solve their differences \u2013 especially when there are children involved. The overriding goal should be to try to do everything that you can to focus on the kids and try to block out all concepts of \u201cfairness\u201d or on other adult issues.<\/p>\n Communication and cooperation are the two main ingredients. The first thing that both Ex\u2019s need to do, is to thoroughly review their custody agreement\/parenting terms for holidays. Your plan is most likely tailored to what you agreed to at the time of separation, or divorce with your attorney or pursuant to the Court\u2019s Standard Parenting Order. These all vary. Some folks have elected for shared time during each holiday, and some have agreed to every other holiday. <\/p>\n Regardless make sure you know what your Court Order states. It is vital to an easy transition for the kids that you and your Ex are in total agreement as to the times of when you will exchange the children and the place where they are to be picked up. Clear communication and mutual cooperation are the foundation of stress free holidays after divorce, especially when children are involved.\u201d<\/p>\n Holidays can be hectic and sometimes there may be a need to change. Try your best to work with your Ex to accommodate both of your needs, but again make sure it is agreed and spelled out clearly in an email or text far in advance. That way you both know what each other\u2019s expectations are. You want to avoid any last-minute confrontations that would make it stressful for all. For your children\u2019s sake, please try to work with your Ex on any modifications, because you would hope they would do the same with you.<\/p>\n Depending on the ages of your children, include them in the plans that you have both made together so that they know what to expect. They need to know that they are loved by both parents, even though it might be hard for them to be away from one parent and not be together as it was in the past. They need to feel safe and cherished and happy for the time spent with each of you! They do not need to feel torn between the two of you, or made to feel guilty that they aren\u2019t with one of you on a specific day. Putting your children\u2019s best interests and co-parenting together amicably is vital. This is not the time to be arguing and creating stress and frustrations.<\/p>\n When it comes to gifts, don\u2019t get in to a \u201cone up\u201d battle. Remember, it is not the gifts that count, it is the love shared and time spent together. However, for kids\u2019, gifts are often a big part of the celebration. Do review the children\u2019s requests with your Ex and split the list so you don\u2019t duplicate and so it is equitable. Don\u2019t be the one who takes the top 5 off the list, leaving your Ex to buy socks and underwear!<\/p>\n Discuss a budget you will both be willing to stick by so one of you doesn\u2019t go overboard leaving one parent to feel overspent or underspent. (Try to get Grandparents to buy into this approach if possible, too.) Also, it is a thoughtful idea to take your child to buy a small gift to give to your Ex. Especially, when they are young and without funds of their own. It shows your child that you respect their other parent and that they are a valued part of their life.<\/p>\n I am a big proponent of making sure you are also taking care of yourself mentally and physically during a divorce. Your family dynamics have changed. Don\u2019t forget to advocate for yourself. Although you are trying to put your kids\u2019 needs first, don\u2019t let your needs fall to the wayside. Try to eat healthy, exercise, surround yourself with friends and family, and if you need to talk to someone, reach out to a therapist.<\/p>\n Holidays can be both happy and stressful, but with communication, advance planning, and cooperation, you can build truly stress free holidays after divorce for both you and your children!<\/p>\n MuesLaw can assist you with your divorce, dissolution and parenting\/custody related issues. To learn more, please go to our website at www.MuesLaw.com<\/a><\/u> or call us at 937 293-2141<\/a><\/u>. We can schedule an in-person conference or one by phone or Zoom. We look forward to assisting you!<\/p>\n Tell us about your case.<\/a><\/p>\n Please consider joining or following us!<\/p>\n \u00a9 2025, Ohio Family Law Blog<\/a>. All rights reserved. <\/p>\n Attorney Robert \u201cChip\u201d Mues has been focusing his legal practice throughout Southwest Ohio primarily in divorce and family law matters since 1978. Chip is passionate about family law and has proudly published the Ohio Family Law Blog since 2007. In addition, he previously managing the Dayton law firm of Holzfaster, Cecil, McKnight & Mues LPA until it dissolved on December 31, 2024. He recently has founded MUESLAW in 2025. To learn more about him or MUESLAW, visit www.MuesLaw.com<\/u><\/span><\/a>. Appointments are available in person, over the phone or by Zoom. Call us at 937 293-2141<\/a>.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n \t\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Publisher\u2019s Note \u2013 The holidays are upon us! Having focused my practice the last 40 years on family law and divorces, I know how difficult this time of year can be for families trying to create stress free holidays after divorce. Often there are lots of crazy pressures coming from all directions! 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<\/a>Holidays are a joyous time. Christmas or Hanukah can be most memorable for both adults and children, but they are especially magical moments for children. However, as adults who are going through a separation, a divorce, or who have already been divorced, the holiday times can be very stressful. I believe that most parents want their children to be happy, but especially so during holiday times. So, what to do to ensure the best possible outcome?<\/p>\nAdvocate for Yourself During the Holidays.<\/strong><\/h3>\n
Helping Your Children Enjoy Stress Free Holidays After Divorce<\/strong><\/h3>\n
MuesLaw Provides Experienced, Trusted and Professional Advice if You Are Considering Ending Your Marriage.<\/strong><\/h3>\n
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