Probably long before you thought, long before you could see it. \u00a0Almost always, it is a conscious and unconscious collusion between the spouses. \u00a0And it makes sense. \u00a0Life\u2026 you have to get back to it!<\/p>\n After all, you are now married, and your marriage is set up to successfully face life\u2026 or is it?<\/p>\n At some point, after lots of connection, you have faith in your relationship, faith in your love. \u00a0So, you hit the Pause Button. \u00a0You think you are putting your marriage into some \u201csuspended animation,\u201d so that you can get on with life \u2014 kids, careers, friends, hobbies, travel, etc. \u00a0You promise yourself(selves) that you will get back to the two of you again\u2026 at some point in the future (that often keeps creeping further into the future).<\/p>\n Until one day, you (and\/or your spouse) find yourself(selves) staring at a near-stranger. \u00a0A roommate (or housemate). \u00a0You no longer recognize the relationship you have, and it certainly isn\u2019t what you were looking for.<\/p>\n The pain of connection leads to anger, alienation, and resentment. \u00a0That cocktail leads to a spiral of disconnection. \u00a0It often accelerates until\u2026 separation, affair, or even divorce.<\/p>\n And it all began with a decision that made total sense\u2026 until it doesn\u2019t work.<\/p>\n Is there a solution?<\/p>\n There IS! \u00a0I just released a new app, the Un-Pause App.<\/strong><\/em><\/a> \u00a0In the podcast, I tell you about the problem\u2026 and the solution. \u00a0Listen below.<\/p>\n RELATED RESOURCES:<\/em><\/strong>![](\"https:\/\/savethemarriage.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/Un-Pause-2.png\")
When did it happen? \u00a0When did your marriage\u2019s trajectory head in the wrong direction<\/strong>?<\/p>\n
The Un-Pause App<\/em><\/a>
The Save The Marriage System<\/em><\/a>
Why Pause Is So Painful<\/em><\/a><\/p>\n