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I\u2019m tired of being a Mom.\u00a0 Yes, I am.\u00a0 I am literally sick and tired of all the things that I have to be responsible for.\u00a0 I just wish there was some sign I could hang on my front door that read \u201cClosed for the Season<\/em>\u201d or \u201cOff-Duty<\/em>.\u201d\u00a0 Although I would appreciate an \u201cOut-To-Lunch<\/em>\u201d sign as well, it would not provide nearly as much respite as I feel I need at this point in my life.\u00a0 And yes, I am sure that some of you are shocked and appalled at me for making such a harsh statement, but I think it\u2019s about time that I admit it to myself\u2026 and I have a feeling that some of you may know exactly what I am talking about and how I am feeling.\u00a0<\/p>\n

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I don\u2019t think that those of us who have other humans for which we are responsible, give ourselves enough credit for all of the work and responsibility that\u2019s involved.\u00a0 I mean, let\u2019s face it\u2026 is there really anyone else who can handle it in the same efficient manner, and with the same patience, grace and style?\u00a0 (And no, I am not taking anything away from those dedicated single fathers and partners who have this same responsibility. So, when I say \u201cMom<\/em>,\u201d much of this can be applied to your scenarios as well.)<\/p>\n

So\u2026 what do I actually mean when I say I am sick of being a Mom?\u00a0 I am referring to the countless hours of handling all of the day-to-day stuff, but more importantly, the stuff that many aren\u2019t even aware of.\u00a0 When I think back to some of the things I have had to do in my life to ensure safety, prevent malnutrition, distract from injury, encourage studies, heal the broken-hearted and keep the peace\u2026 It is all too much to name.\u00a0 However, I do have one story to share, just for emphasis.\u00a0 ALthough my children are in their teenage years, one actually off to college, this story goes back to when they were mere toddlers.<\/p>\n

I remember like it was yesterday.\u00a0 It was early on in my marriage, and like many, we had our share of disagreements on perspectives and responsibilities.\u00a0 However, what I remember the most about that period of time in my life, is that I was tired \u2013 even then \u2013 even though we were just starting out.\u00a0 I was a full-time working Mom, both in and out of the home, and there just didn\u2019t seem to be enough time in the day to get everything done that I had to.\u00a0 Nonetheless, I tried my hardest to give my all to everyone (especially my children) and most of the time, it just didn\u2019t seem like it was enough.\u00a0 I was also tired of having to explain to others \u2018why\u2019 I was tired almost all of the time.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n

In any case, I remember having a disagreement with my husband about who was more fatigued, almost as if we were comparing war wounds or something.\u00a0 And then he said it. I can\u2019t remember his exact words, but he implied something about how I really didn\u2019t do as much as he did. \u2026 Well, that was it\u2026 I snapped!<\/p>\n

\u201cDO YOU CLIP TOENAILS?\u2019 I yelled at the top of my lungs.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n

He looked at me with a stumbled and confused expression, and said \u201cWhat??\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cDO\u2026 YOU\u2026 CLIP\u2026 TOENAILS?\u201d I repeated.\u00a0<\/p>\n

\u201cWhat are you talking about?, he asked.<\/p>\n

\u201cWhat I\u2019m talking about are the kids\u2019 toenails.\u00a0 Do you clip them?\u00a0 No, you don\u2019t!\u00a0 I do!!. And that\u2019s just one example of the million things I do and get done in a given day.\u00a0 I take care of, solve, handle and manage ALL of the things that you don\u2019t. Things that you don\u2019t think of, know about or could even imagine. You don\u2019t know what I do, because you don\u2019t have to worry about such things\u2026 because I work to get it all done!\u201d<\/p>\n

I can\u2019t remember what came next.\u00a0 I think I stormed off and left the room, leaving him standing there dumbfounded.\u00a0 Although that could just be my dramatic imagination taking the scene to a whole other level.\u00a0 What more likely happened next was us continuing to stand there and argue over whatever task or chore was the point of contention that day.\u00a0 Either way, it was a travesty of parenthood and partnership.\u00a0 It wasn\u2019t a necessary conversation, but one that I am sure we had on more than one occasion.\u00a0 What I should have done was shrug it all off.\u00a0 I know what I had to get done, and I know what I did.\u00a0 And either way, it didn\u2019t matter what my husband or anyone else thought. I was tired, and I was allowed to be.<\/p>\n

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\"Why<\/figure>\n<\/div>\n

Sometimes I would occasionally wonder what would happen if I wasn\u2019t there to get it all done\u2026 and then I tried not to think such negative thoughts.\u00a0 In any case, the moral of the story is to demonstrate the fact that you are not alone in your internal struggle of wanting to do it all perfectly, and not wanting to do anything at all anymore. If you are tired of being a Mom, you are entitled to feel that way, but know that you are a good Mom, nonetheless!<\/p>\n

So\u2026 here is my quick rundown of some of the thoughts you SHOULD<\/em> have as you continue on your Mom journey:<\/h4>\n
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  • Baby stage:<\/strong> It is ok to sleep whenever and wherever you can, even if that means in your car! Do not deprive yourself of rest, even when there is a ton of housework to be done.\u00a0 There will always be chores, but \u201ctime to rest\u201d is a precious commodity! (I know this seems so cliche, but it is oh, so true!!)<\/em><\/li>\n
  • Toddler phase:<\/strong> It is ok to put yourself <\/em><\/strong>in time-out!\u00a0 Get a babysitter, family member, or someone to watch your little one, even when you have no special plans or anywhere to go\u2026 Target is always a good option and an easy getaway. Just go for a drive if you have to; it is necessary! You can pick up where you left off when you get back.<\/li>\n
  • Youth (<\/strong>elementary to middle-school<\/em><\/strong>):<\/strong> Just say your prayers daily \u2013 especially for strength!\u00a0 This is the phase of sports, concerts, plays, musicals, talent shows, band recitals, art exhibits, science fairs, and the list goes on. Hang in there\u2026 things will slow eventually. However, do not guilt yourself if you don\u2019t make every performance or show\u2026 it happens, and what you do end up attending will provide enough good memories for all of you!<\/li>\n
  • Teenage years: <\/strong>Breathe!!\u00a0 We know what it was like to be that age, but at the same time, we don\u2019t want to remember what it was like to be that age\u2026 I get it!\u00a0 Have patience\u2026 and LISTEN!\u00a0 Hear what they have to say and try not to interject as a parent in between their every word.\u00a0 Listen to their point of view and know that they are trying their best\u2026 despite what you may think. And respond with kindness and support in your heart!<\/li>\n
  • Young adult:<\/strong> This is new territory for me, as I am just now approaching this phase.\u00a0 But, what I plan to do<\/em><\/strong> is know that I have tried my hardest for all these years.\u00a0 I have to trust that all of my blood, sweat and tears were wor\\tht it and meant something!\u00a0 Either way, I gave all that I had to give, with what I had\u2026 and so did you.\u00a0 Good job, Mom!\u00a0 Wherever their lives go from here on out, you did your part\u2026 and know that \u201cyour part\u201d was always and will always be \u2013 good enough!<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
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    \"Tiaras<\/figure>\n<\/div>\n

    \u00a0-Chintz \ud83d\udc84<\/p>\n

    \"fiaras\"<\/figure>\n

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