{"id":287147,"date":"2025-06-11T03:43:53","date_gmt":"2025-06-11T03:43:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/peraltafinancing.com\/business\/investing\/the-prick-needed-to-be-told-the-barefoot-investor\/"},"modified":"2025-06-11T03:43:53","modified_gmt":"2025-06-11T03:43:53","slug":"the-prick-needed-to-be-told-the-barefoot-investor","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fivemor.com\/?p=287147","title":{"rendered":"The Prick Needed to Be Told \u2014 The Barefoot Investor"},"content":{"rendered":"<p> <br \/>\n<\/p>\n<div>\n<p class=\"\" style=\"white-space:pre-wrap;\"><em>Dear Scott,<\/em><\/p>\n<p class=\"\" style=\"white-space:pre-wrap;\"><em>I just read your response to the daughter whose father was using money to control her mum \u2013\u00a0and I wanted to say thank you. You called it what it was: coercive control. And you didn\u2019t sugar-coat it. I\u2019ve been there. My second husband never hit me, but he isolated me, controlled our money, and crushed my confidence. It only lasted 20 months, but the damage was deep. Thanks to my son (and your book), I got out and I\u2019m slowly rebuilding. Sue-Ellen may not see it yet. She might even defend him. But you may have planted the first seed. That matters. And you\u2019re right, couples therapy rarely works with abusers. They manipulate the room too. Thanks for saying what needed to be said.<\/em><\/p>\n<p class=\"\" style=\"white-space:pre-wrap;\"><em>Linda<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Hi Linda,<\/p>\n<p class=\"\" style=\"white-space:pre-wrap;\">This question struck a nerve with readers, and no wonder. Coercive control is everywhere, especially in older couples where the pattern has been playing out behind closed doors for decades.<\/p>\n<p class=\"\" style=\"white-space:pre-wrap;\">It was a tricky one, because I had to speak to the daughter, not the mum directly. But you&#8217;re right, sometimes the first act of rebellion is simply naming the behaviour out loud. That\u2019s how change begins.<\/p>\n<p class=\"\" style=\"white-space:pre-wrap;\">After everything you\u2019ve been through, you now see that coercive control isn\u2019t about being protective or frugal. It\u2019s about fear, power, and keeping someone small. You found your freedom, with the help of your son. Now Sue-Ellen\u00a0 has the chance to help her mum do the same.<\/p>\n<p class=\"\" style=\"white-space:pre-wrap;\">Scott<\/p>\n<\/div>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Dear Scott, I just read your response to the daughter whose father was using money to control her mum \u2013\u00a0and I wanted to say thank you. You called it what it was: coercive control. And you didn\u2019t sugar-coat it. I\u2019ve been there. My second husband never hit me, but he isolated me, controlled our money, [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":104158,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[96],"tags":[10055,13177,9273,117811,19746],"dealstore":[],"offerexpiration":[],"class_list":["post-287147","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-investing","tag-barefoot","tag-investor","tag-needed","tag-prick","tag-told"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v26.4 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>The Prick Needed to Be Told \u2014 The Barefoot Investor - Som2ny Network<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/fivemor.com\/?p=287147\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"The Prick Needed to Be Told \u2014 The Barefoot Investor - Som2ny Network\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"Dear Scott, I just read your response to the daughter whose father was using money to control her mum \u2013\u00a0and I wanted to say thank you. 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