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\nAll the adversity I\u2019ve had in my life, all my troubles and obstacles, have strengthened me . . . You may not realize it when it happens, but a kick in the teeth may be the best thing in the world for you. <\/p>\n
\u2014Walt Disney<\/em><\/cite><\/p><\/blockquote>\n
My lowest point hit shortly after my divorce, a time when it felt like everything in my life was falling apart.<\/p>\n
I felt like the world was ending, and I couldn\u2019t get my engine started. And sometimes I didn\u2019t even try.<\/p>\n
I had failed, and I couldn\u2019t change a thing (or so I thought). I kept thinking, \u201cIs it really over?\u201d I was sinking, and my air was running out.<\/p>\n
The worst part of all was facing my kids and my former wife. You could see a numbness in their eyes. And it hurt. It really hurt.<\/p>\n
I soon found myself with no job, no car, no money, and high debts. Luckily, someone bailed me out. My second mom got me an apartment next to hers. Thank you.<\/p>\n
But I didn\u2019t know how precarious her situation was. This blessing was soon taken away when she was hit with eviction notices on both apartments\u2014and there were our things, scattered all over the ground. \u201cCan it get any worse than this?\u201d<\/p>\n
Mom got another place, and I found a friend who let me sleep on his couch (whew!). But that didn\u2019t last long either: After a week he threw me out, and it was the best thing he could\u2019ve done.<\/p>\n
He threw me out because he grew so disgusted with my negativity. You see, all my blaming, complaining, and walking around like a zombie wasn\u2019t working very well.<\/p>\n
And he kept saying ten words\u2014ten words his father had taught him. Ten words that he believed in.<\/p>\n
Ten words that would become my mantra: \u201cIf it is to be, it is up to me.\u201d<\/p>\n
You Can\u2019t Fix Your Life Before You Take Responsibility<\/strong><\/h3>\n
When my friend kept beating those words into me, a light finally turned on. If I wanted a job, it was up to me. If I wanted to love and support my family, it was up to me. If I wanted to be happier and stronger, it was up to me. Everything about me was up to me.<\/p>\n
My friend\u2019s advice hit me like a ton of bricks. It shook me. I was responsible. I needed to do whatever it took. I needed to do the hard things. I needed to quit asking for bailouts. And I needed to start trusting my own abilities. Not only was it up to me, I needed to start believing in myself more.<\/p>\n
Talk about a turning point.<\/p>\n
Unfortunately, I didn\u2019t find the strength fast enough to save my marriage. And that still hurts. But I wasn\u2019t going to give up on life and my kids. They needed me. They needed a good father. They needed me to keep going, to try, to learn, to grow, and to get better. And they still loved their dad, even though he was flawed.<\/p>\n
So, what do you do when your life falls apart, and you\u2019re left to pick up the pieces?<\/p>\n
I began by taking small steps: securing a modest room for rent, applying to numerous jobs, and, fortuitously, finding employment relatively quickly. The greatest triumph, however, came later: finding love again and remarrying, which brought a renewed joy into my life.<\/p>\n
The journey taught me that climbing out of despair requires more than just the desire for change; it demands actionable steps toward improvement\u2026<\/p>\n
You Must Stop Playing the Blame Game<\/strong><\/h3>\n
I wanted to blame my wife, or someone\u2014anyone but me. And I kept trying, but it didn\u2019t work. It didn\u2019t do any good. I mean, blame doesn\u2019t save you or give you peace. And it doesn\u2019t give you strength to keep going. Rather, the opposite is true. It sucks you dry.<\/p>\n
I knew that I was the one who had trouble getting a job, staying with it, and earning a minimal living. I knew that I was the one who would quit and try out a business idea that didn\u2019t do squat. I knew that I was the one always asking for help and bailouts. I knew that I was the reason the debts were piling up, despite having a master\u2019s degree in Exercise Physiology. And I knew I gave up too easily.<\/p>\n
So what about you? Is blame still your best friend? Are you dishing it out all the time, or are you the blame magnet? Are you the one squeezing it so tight you leave marks in it, even though everything good inside you keeps trying to pry it loose?<\/p>\n
You Must End the Constant Complaining<\/strong><\/h3>\n
When I was in that bad place, after my divorce, I couldn\u2019t stop complaining. And three times a day, breakfast, lunch, and dinner, wasn\u2019t enough. I\u2019d complain all the time.<\/p>\n
I don\u2019t know about you, but when I think about something, I talk about it. And if I\u2019m thinking and talking about every bad thing that\u2019s happened, whether to me or anyone else, then I feel like crap. And it wears people down, including me.<\/p>\n
So I\u2019ve committed to stop complaining, and though I still slip up\u2013I\u2019ve told my wife I don\u2019t want to complain anymore and trust me, she calls me on it\u2014I certainly complain a lot less. Complaining is human, so you don\u2019t have to beat yourself up when it happens.<\/p>\n
On the flip side, I have learned that every time I start saying out loud everything I\u2019m grateful for, even the littlest things, I start feeling better. I start smiling again. And I\u2019d rather feel the goodness of gratitude than the garbage of complaining. Maybe it is time to let gratitude take its proper place again.<\/p>\n
Sometimes You Must Do the Hard Things<\/strong><\/h3>\n
I\u2019ve always been a dreamer, with a desire to contribute in a big way and to work for myself. The idea of working for someone else, or doing something I didn\u2019t want to do, especially something that seemed small, always created a big knot in my stomach.<\/p>\n
Something needed to change. I needed to pay my own way and support my family more (what was left of it). I could work a job until I got something better (and that took me 25 years). And my first good paying job did come through\u2014a government job. It paid the bills, helped my family, and I got back on my feet.<\/p>\n
But it wasn\u2019t fulfilling, and I knew I had so much more to contribute. I couldn\u2019t stand the office politics. I tried to embrace the good that was there, but it wasn\u2019t easy. It wasn\u2019t the fondest part of my life, but it got me where I am today. It got me a better life and a better life for my kids.<\/p>\n
You know the best things in life don\u2019t come easily. You might have to take a job you don\u2019t like for a time. You might have to raise your kids alone for a time. You might have to be brutally honest about your weaknesses, and then do something about them. And you might have to date again, even if you\u2019ve suffered heartbreak.<\/p>\n
When the World Turns Again<\/strong><\/h3>\n
My life has transformed significantly since those darkest days. I\u2019ve found happiness in a new marriage, freed myself from debt, and am now pursuing my dreams with renewed vigor.<\/p>\n
This journey has taught me the power of personal responsibility and the strength that lies within us to overcome adversity. When your life falls apart, it\u2019s the realization that the power to rebuild rests with you, and taking action is the first step towards turning things around.<\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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