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\nIt always feels better to be exhausted from taking small steps forward, than it does to be tired of doing absolutely nothing.<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n
In 1911 two explorers, Amundsen and Scott, embarked on a race against each other to become the first known human being to set foot upon the southernmost point of Earth. It was the age of Antarctic exploration, as the South Pole represented one of the last uncharted areas in the world. Amundsen wished to plant the Norwegian flag there on behalf of his country, while Scott hoped to stake his claim for England.<\/p>\n
The journey there and back from their base camps was about 1,400 miles, which is roughly equivalent to a round-trip hike from New York City to Chicago. Both men would be traveling the same exact distance on foot through extremely cold and harsh weather conditions. And both men were equally equipped with experience, supplies, and a supporting team of fellow explorers. But what wasn\u2019t certain is how each of them would approach the inevitable challenges they faced on the road ahead.<\/p>\n
As it turned out, Amundsen and Scott took entirely different approaches to the very same challenges.<\/p>\n
Scott directed his team to hike as far as possible on the good weather days and then rest on bad weather days to conserve energy. Conversely, Amundsen directed his team to follow a strict regimen of consistent daily progress by hiking exactly 20 miles every day, regardless of weather conditions. Even on the warmest, clear-sky days, when Amundsen\u2019s team was capable of hiking much farther, Amundsen was absolutely adamant that they travel no more than 20 miles to conserve their energy for the following day\u2019s hike.<\/p>\n
Which team succeeded in the end?<\/p>\n
The team that took consistent daily action.<\/p>\n
Why?<\/p>\n
Because what we do EVERY day defines us!<\/p>\n
Today\u2019s progress is always compounded by yesterday\u2019s effort, no matter how small.<\/strong><\/p>\n
And it all comes down to the power of consistent self-discipline.<\/p>\n
Think about the most common problems we deal with in our modern lives \u2014 from lack of presence to lack of exercise to unhealthy diets to procrastination, and so forth. In most cases, problems like these are not caused not by a physically present limitation, but by a weakness of the mind \u2014 specifically, a lack of self-discipline.<\/p>\n
We put the difficult things off until tomorrow \u2014 because the \u201cweather\u201d is bad \u2014 until we\u2019ve lost our edge. We grow accustomed to the idea that things should be easier than they are, and that waiting another day or two makes the best sense. Then one day we wake up and we\u2019re emotionally incapable of doing the difficult things that must be done \u2014 it\u2019s too late.<\/p>\n
Let this be your wake-up call!<\/p>\n
Your mind and body both need to be exercised to gain strength. They need to be challenged, and they need to be worked consistently, to grow and develop over time.<\/strong> If you haven\u2019t pushed yourself in lots of little ways over time \u2014 if you always avoid doing the difficult things \u2014 of course you\u2019ll crumble on the inevitable days that are harder than you expected.<\/p>\n
And if I had to guess, I\u2019d say Scott\u2019s team suffered in exactly this way. They tried to make things easier on themselves \u2014 the fantasy of \u201ceasier\u201d became their mantra \u2014 their subconscious goal. But this fantasy was never going to be a reality during a 1,400-mile footrace in the South Pole.<\/p>\n
Scott\u2019s team lost the race, not just on the ground, but in their heads first.<\/p>\n
They were convinced that waiting made things easier.<\/p>\n
Don\u2019t follow in their footsteps \u2014 don\u2019t wait until it\u2019s too late!<\/p>\n
Remember, many great things can be done in a day if you don\u2019t always make that day tomorrow.<\/strong> Take positive action and plant the right seeds in your life right now. Nature herself does not distinguish between what seeds she receives. She grows whatever seeds are planted. This is the way life works. Be mindful of the seeds you plant today, as they will become the crop you harvest tomorrow.<\/p>\n
So with that principle in mind, I want to share some key daily practices we\u2019ve seen make all the difference in the lives of hundreds of our coaching clients, course members, and live event attendees over the past 16 years \u2014 simple (but far from easy) things they do every day that ultimately move their lives forward.<\/p>\n
1. Start letting go of rigid and unnecessary ideals.<\/h2>\n
When a thought comes to mind, ask yourself if it\u2019s helping you grow or holding you back. Take back control! Make the unconscious, conscious, and let go of what isn\u2019t serving you. This form of letting go is not giving up.<\/a> It\u2019s surrendering any obsessive emotional attachment to particular people, outcomes, or situations. It means showing up every day in your life with the intention to be your best self, and to do the best you know how, without expecting life to go a certain way. Have goals, have dreams, take purposeful action, and build great relationships, but detach from what every aspect of your life must absolutely look like to be \u201cgood enough\u201d for you.<\/strong> Just accept reality and then respond effectively. Focus on what matters \u2014 what moves you forward today \u2014 and let go of what does not.<\/p>\n
2. Start putting your heart and soul into the little things you do.<\/h2>\n
There\u2019s a big difference between empty fatigue and gratifying exhaustion. Life is too short. Invest daily in meaningful activities.<\/strong> Don\u2019t wait around! Too often we wait, because we think we need to \u201cfind\u201d something new or different to be passionate about. But that\u2019s not true. If you want more passion in your life right now, act accordingly right now!<\/p>\n
Put your whole heart and soul into the next thing you do. Not into tomorrow\u2019s opportunities, but the opportunity right in front of you. Not into tomorrow\u2019s tasks, but today\u2019s tasks. Not into tomorrow\u2019s run, but today\u2019s run. Not into tomorrow\u2019s conversations, but today\u2019s conversations. I\u2019m absolutely certain you have plenty in your life right now that\u2019s worth your time, energy, and passionate focus. You have people and circumstances in your life that need you as much as you need them. You have a massive reservoir of passionate potential within you, just waiting. Stop waiting!<\/strong> There is no tomorrow. Put your heart and soul into what you\u2019ve got right in front of you! Become it, let it become you, and great things will happen for<\/strong> you, to<\/strong> you, and because<\/strong> of you.<\/p>\n
3. Start stretching yourself to the edge of your ability.<\/h2>\n
When you\u2019re struggling to make progress, that\u2019s when you actually are. Let that sink in. It\u2019s far wiser to spend an extremely high quality ten minutes stretching yourself, than it is to spend a mediocre hour sitting comfortably in place. You want to be stretched to the edge of your ability at least once a day; it needs to be somewhat difficult and slightly uncomfortable for a little while. But most of us don\u2019t want to be uncomfortable, so we run from the possibility of discomfort constantly. The obvious problem with this is that, by running from discomfort, we are constrained to partake in only the activities and opportunities within our comfort zones. And since our comfort zones are relativity small, we miss out on most of life\u2019s greatest and healthiest experiences, and we get stuck in a debilitating cycle with our goals.<\/strong> We keep doing what we\u2019ve always done, and thus we keep getting the results we\u2019ve always gotten. And our true potential falls by the wayside.<\/p>\n
Choose differently! Go to environments that expand your mind. Spend time with people who inspire you to stretch yourself. Read books. Grow. Get better. Your life is mostly your choice.<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n
4. Start giving yourself more grace when things don\u2019t go well.<\/h2>\n
It\u2019s incredibly easy to overestimate the significance of a single decision, outcome, or event in the heat of the moment. But you must remind yourself to take a deep breath when things don\u2019t go your way. Your results in the long run \u2014 good or bad \u2014 are always the byproduct of many small steps, outcomes, and events that transpire over time.<\/strong><\/p>\n
The truth is we all fail sometimes. The greater truth is that no single failure ever defines us. Learn from your mistakes, grow wiser, and press on. Character and wisdom are sculpted gradually. They come with loss, lessons, and triumphs. They come after doubts, second guesses, and uncertainty. The seeds of your success are planted in your past troubles and failures. Your best stories will come from overcoming your greatest challenges. Your praises will be birthed from your pains. So keep standing, keep learning, and keep living.<\/p>\n
5. Start side-stepping unnecessary drama.<\/h2>\n
Tune out the cheap shots people take at you along the way. Don\u2019t waste words on people who deserve your silence. Sometimes the most powerful thing you can say is nothing at all. Seriously, before you waste it on anger, spite or frustration, think of how precious and irreplaceable your time is today.<\/strong> Give yourself a permanent break from the drama that can be easily avoided \u2014 don\u2019t engage in it.<\/p>\n
Life is just too short to constantly argue and fight. Count your blessings, value the people who matter, and move on from the drama with your head held high. Remind yourself that calmness is a human superpower. The ability to not overreact or take things personally keeps your mind clear, your heart at peace, and yourself moving forward.<\/strong> So take constructive criticism seriously, but not personally. Listen to others, and then operate with your own intuition and wisdom as your guide.<\/p>\n
6. Start being true to your values and convictions.<\/h2>\n
Rejections don\u2019t matter that much in the long run. Accept them and refocus your attention on what does<\/strong> matter. What does matter is how you see yourself. So always make a habit of staying 100% true to your values and convictions, regardless of what others think. Never be ashamed of doing what feels right\u2026<\/strong><\/p>\n
To help you implement this positive habit, start by listing out 5-10 things that are important to you when it comes to building your character and living your life. For example, Honesty, Reliability, Self-Respect, Self-Discipline, Compassion, and Kindness. Having a short list like this to reference will give you an opportunity to consciously invoke and uphold your handpicked traits and behaviors in place of doing something random simply for the purpose of external validation. (Note: Angel and I discuss this in more detail in the Self-Love chapter of \u201c1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently\u201d<\/a>.)<\/em><\/p>\n
7. Start looking for silver linings.<\/h2>\n
The most powerful weapon against stress on the average day is our ability to choose one thought over another.<\/strong> Train your mind to see the good. Studies have shown that doctors who are put in a positive mood before making a diagnosis consistently experience significant boosts to their intellectual abilities than doctors in a neutral state, which allows them to make accurate diagnoses almost 20% faster. Similar studies of other vocations have shown that optimistic salespeople outsell their pessimistic counterparts by over 50%, and university students primed to feel happy before taking math exams statistically outperform their neutral peers. It turns out that our minds are literally hardwired to perform at their best not when they are negative, or even neutral, but when they are positive.<\/p>\n
So think a little less about managing your problems and a little more about managing your mindset.<\/strong> Do your best to keep it positive.<\/p>\n
8. Start focusing inward more often.<\/h2>\n
Do your best to focus inward as often as necessary, especially when you need a moment of clarity. And remember that your time spent focusing inward and finding clarity doesn\u2019t just help you \u2014 your mind is powerful and your thoughts create ripples in other people\u2019s lives. When you bring clarity into your life, you bring the best of yourself into everything you do<\/strong> \u2014 you tend to treat yourself and others better, communicate more constructively, do things for the right reasons, and ultimately improve the world you\u2019re living in. This is why daily praying, or simply reflecting on some positive quotes<\/a>, can actually make a real-world difference in your life. A heightened level of your conscious awareness \u2014 mental clarity \u2014 elevates you in countless ways. And then interesting things begin happening \u2014 good things that are outside of your immediate purview\u2026 good things you haven\u2019t even thought of yet.<\/p>\n
9. Start embracing your humanness.<\/h2>\n
\u201cHuman\u201d is the only real label we are born with, yet we forget so easily. To become attached to a loaded label of overweight, divorced, diseased, rejected, or poor, is to be like the rain, that doesn\u2019t know it is also the clouds\u2026 or the ice, that forgets it is water.<\/strong> For we are far more than the shape we\u2019re currently in. And we, like the wind, water, and sky, will change forms many times in our lives, while forever remaining beautifully human.<\/p>\n
Once we fully embrace our humanness, it\u2019s almost funny to see how quickly we outgrow what we once thought we couldn\u2019t live without\u2026 and then we fall in love with what we didn\u2019t even know we wanted. Take this to heart. And don\u2019t forget to pause at least once a day to appreciate how far you\u2019ve come. You\u2019ve been through a lot, and you\u2019ve grown a lot too. Give yourself credit for the steps you\u2019ve taken, so you can step forward again with grace.<\/strong><\/p>\n
10. Start taking the next small step, and the next.<\/h2>\n
Sometimes it\u2019s really difficult to get going again. This is how Angel and I felt 20 years ago when we were stuck in a rut after simultaneously losing two loved ones to suicide and illness. It was really difficult to move when we didn\u2019t think we had the strength to push forward. But we pushed ourselves to take one small step every day \u2014 one journal entry, one workout, one honest conversation, and so forth \u2014 and it felt good, and we got stronger.<\/strong> And believe it or not, that\u2019s basically what I did again this morning\u2026<\/p>\n
Earlier today I was struggling to motivate myself after a pretty significant business opportunity fell through. I was feeling utterly defeated. So I took the tiniest possible step. Just turning on my laptop, opening up the word processing application, and writing a single sentence. Such an action is so small as to seem insignificant, and yet so easy as to be possible when I was feeling defeated. And it showed me that the next step was possible, and the next. And the end result is the article you\u2019ve just finished reading.<\/p>\n
Now it\u2019s your turn\u2026<\/h3>\n