{"id":249898,"date":"2025-05-21T03:52:23","date_gmt":"2025-05-21T03:52:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/peraltafinancing.com\/business\/investing\/should-i-marry-a-kind-loser-the-barefoot-investor\/"},"modified":"2025-05-21T03:52:23","modified_gmt":"2025-05-21T03:52:23","slug":"should-i-marry-a-kind-loser-the-barefoot-investor","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fivemor.com\/?p=249898","title":{"rendered":"Should I Marry a Kind Loser? \u2014 The Barefoot Investor"},"content":{"rendered":"<p> <br \/>\n<\/p>\n<div>\n<p class=\"\" style=\"white-space:pre-wrap;\"><em>Scott,<\/em><\/p>\n<p>I have my own company that\u2019s worth a bit of money, and I own my own home and car. I earn $250,000 a year. However, I\u2019ve been dating a guy for about two years who doesn\u2019t have anything. He earns the minimum wage, can\u2019t save, and is consistently struggling. Everyone I know keeps telling me to leave him. Yet he is the kindest soul and my best friend \u2013 he\u2019s had a really rough upbringing and just keeps hitting bad luck. Still, I\u2019m scared he is going to live off my back the rest of my life. I\u2019m 30 now, and I want to get married. But should money be the deciding factor in this relationship?<\/p>\n<p>Mary<\/p>\n<p>Hi Mary<\/p>\n<p>Let me be clear: I\u2019m a finance guy, not a relationship coach.<\/p>\n<p>To me, dating is like shopping at IKEA: everything looks cute and stylish under those soft Scandinavian lights. You stroll through the aisles, picturing how perfect it\u2019ll be in your home.<\/p>\n<p>Marriage is like dragging the flatpack home, realising the instructions make no sense, and discovering \u2013 halfway through assembly \u2013 that you\u2019re missing three screws and the whole thing is lopsided.<\/p>\n<p>Right now, your guy is that wobbly, half-built Billy bookcase \u2013 no savings, no financial stability, and no clear plan. Maybe he can pull himself together. Yet you\u2019re not his Allen key, Mary.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>If he truly loves you, he\u2019ll prove it. Hand him <em>The Barefoot Investor<\/em> and give him three months to get a better job, start saving, and show he\u2019s serious about building a future with you.\u00a0What if he can\u2019t?<\/p>\n<p>Well, you know what to do with wonky furniture that won\u2019t stand up on its own \u2013 dump it on the nature strip and move on.<\/p>\n<p class=\"\" style=\"white-space:pre-wrap;\">Scott<\/p>\n<\/div>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Scott, I have my own company that\u2019s worth a bit of money, and I own my own home and car. I earn $250,000 a year. However, I\u2019ve been dating a guy for about two years who doesn\u2019t have anything. He earns the minimum wage, can\u2019t save, and is consistently struggling. 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