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Hello, friends. Just a quick note to let you all know that my life, at last, seems to be settling. A full two months after the death of my mother, the fog has lifted and I find that I’m motivated to pursue productive pursuits once more.<\/p>\n

I spent much of the past several weeks doing some serious soul-searching. It’s clear to me (and to Kim) that above all else, I need to make 2023 the year of me<\/em>.<\/p>\n

2023 \u2014 The Year of Me<\/h2>\n

More than a decade ago, I got into the habit of theming my years and months. It was fun! It was also fruitful. Whenever I decided to devote a span of time to one thing, I had great results, whether it was with fitness or writing or dating. This habit of theming lasted for a couple of years, then fell by the wayside.<\/p>\n

Well, I’ve spent too long putting myself second. Or third. Or ninth. Starting yesterday, my aim is to put myself first for the next year (or more).<\/p>\n

This is tough for me. It seems selfish. It seems wrong. But the truth is I’ve been allowing other things to interfere with my pursuit of physical and mental health for too long. I’ve been making excuses. No more! For the foreseeable future, J.D. is job one. Let the age of selfishness commence! <\/p>\n

The truth is, of course, that by putting myself first I’m almost certain to become a better person for others<\/em> \u2014 including you. I get that this is so (and, in fact, it’s advice I often give to others), but I’ve been unable to act on the knowledge for too long.<\/p>\n

Anyhow, I suspect there’ll be no real change for you, the readers of Get Rich Slowly. The change will mostly be inside of me. I’m giving myself permission to put my needs and desires ahead of everything else for 2023, but I’m almost certain that’ll translate into more fodder for articles around here. And<\/em>, at long last, completion of the site de-design.<\/p>\n

But as part of this Year of Me, I’m deliberately not holding myself to any sort of publishing or production schedule around here. If I have something to say, I’ll say it. If not, I won’t force anything. The post you’re reading is a good example: I just finished another Designing Your Life<\/em><\/a> exercise and have a bit of free time before a call with a friend, so I decided to share a quick update.<\/p>\n

Again, this is largely a change inside of me<\/em>, and I know it. But it’s an important change.<\/p>\n

The Courage to Be Disliked<\/h2>\n

For Thanksgiving, Kim and I drove to California to visit her brother’s family. To pass the time, we listened to The Courage to Be Disliked<\/em><\/a> by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumtitake Koga. This book (which really ought to be titled The Courage to Be Happy<\/em>) explores the worldview of psychologist Alfred Adler.<\/p>\n

The Courage to Be Disliked<\/em> is packed with loads of wisdom. (I found myself frustrated that I couldn’t highlight passages in an audiobook!) Gems such as these:<\/p>\n