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So, as a mom I know too well how being in the middle feels. The middle between son and son, Father and son, etc. It seems we can be put in the position of the referee in life\u2019s challenges.\u00a0<\/p>\n
I\u2019ve been hearing a lot from other mothers and thought I\u2019d share some insights in hopes it might spark a pause in our responses, help us be more considerate and just do a better job if possible.<\/p>\n
I\u2019m sharing as father and son, but this applies to any familial relationship with the farm.<\/p>\n
\u201cWhen I\u2019m with my husband I am trying to get him to see my son\u2019s point of view and when I\u2019m with my son I\u2019m trying to get him to see my husband\u2019s point of view. And then while I\u2019m with my husband he says I\u2019m always taking my son\u2019s side and my son accuses me of taking my husband\u2019s side of the issue. I\u2019m damned either way.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cNo matter how I try to get my husband to be less critical and more appreciative, nothing changes. His way of helping is to criticize and that does nothing but shut down communication.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI know my son has been hurt deeply from his father\u2019s words. I try to convince him of his father\u2019s love but I\u2019m fearful it is falling on deaf ears.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cMy husband needs to allow our son to falter and fail. He thinks some of my son\u2019s ideas are frivolous and won\u2019t work. He just won\u2019t give him a chance.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI try to tell my son that if he could just tell his dad he appreciates all he has done to get the farm this far it would mean so much to his dad. His dad is a broken, sad man that needs some appreciation.\u201d<\/p>\n
Also, mothers seem to find things out \u2013 things we might not want to know.<\/p>\n
\u201cI know there has been some digression in my son\u2019s marriage. I don\u2019t know if he knows about it or not but it is a factor in our decisions.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cMy daughter-in-law is very vocal to others that as soon as they inherit the farm she is going to divorce and take half of it.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cMy son-in-law has manipulated my daughter to the point that she doesn\u2019t trust us.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cMy son-in-law has threatened to keep the grandkids from us if we don\u2019t . . .\u201d<\/p>\n
Life in general can be difficult to traverse. When we selfishly put stumbling blocks on the path it serves no purpose. The strife, the wounds \u2013 all of it is unnecessary.<\/p>\n
My heart is heavy for those I\u2019ve been listening to. Some scenarios are just about unbelievable. The pain inflicted is deadly to the soul and heart.<\/p>\n
May I remind us all that time is a thief. There is no way to back up, clean up and do over. Every minute, hour, day, month and year in strife and separation is an unnecessary burden that can\u2019t be undone.<\/p>\n
Please look at each day as the last one you will have a chance to make amends. As the last day you could say the things you want to say but are caught in your throat. If you can find words to criticize you can definitely find words of praise and gratitude. One brings life, one brings death.<\/p>\n
Tomorrow never comes and yesterday can\u2019t be bought back with any amount of money.<\/p>\n
Lay your head on your pillow tonight knowing you have done all you can if you wake up tomorrow without another chance because someone is now gone forever.<\/p>\n
. . . to be continued . . .<\/p>\n
If you have anything anonymous, you\u2019d like to share please message me.<\/p>\n
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