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On the farm it seems there is no escape from, well the farm and everything that goes with it.<\/p>\n
There are no weekends and hardly any days off. Many of us live on the farm so we can\u2019t even shut the barn door and drive away to our home. We don\u2019t even get to shut the barn door. Like many ours is a 24-hour operation and even if we didn\u2019t milk cows work would never be done.\u00a0<\/p>\n
I can hear other\u2019s say \u201cI can\u2019t wait until Friday. I\u2019m looking forward to the weekend.\u201d They punch out, walk away, and leave the stress (for the most part) behind or the next person on shift takes over what they had been doing.<\/p>\n
The same goes for conflict and strife on the farm. After listening to so many I felt this needed to be addressed.<\/p>\n
On many farms like ours, the farm office is in our home, and we\u2019ve always had a revolving door with all the kids. Much of the farm business comes in and out the door \u2013 insurance guys, seed guys, semen salesman, the list could go on.\u00a0<\/p>\n
And with that comes meetings, conversations, and confrontations.<\/p>\n
And I get the premature calf laying in the mudroom and other things like that. I\u2019m just trying to show where a wall between home and business could be beneficial. <\/p>\n
After listening to many I\u2019ve compiled a list of a few things I received from others anonymously that might prevent some issues in your home and help you find a way to make or keep your home \u2013 your home and not an extension of the business.<\/p>\n
Now, I know this is just about impossible and it won\u2019t be a clean-cut division but if you can at least eliminate something, then there may just be a touch less stress.<\/p>\n
Here we go:<\/p>\n
First, meet the people who are doing business with you at the farm. If your house is 10 feet from the barn, then meet in the barn.<\/p>\n
Have weekly or even a 10-minute daily conversation with those you work with each morning to keep the wrinkles small and ironable. Waiting to talk about something a week later or a week into a project creates a wrinkle hard to smooth out \u2013 and meet in the barn or barn office if you have one.<\/p>\n
If you are having conflicts that aren\u2019t being resolved or conflicts frequently call in a family counselor or a business consultant that can look at things objectively. Preservation of the family should be before preservation of the farm \u2013 at least in my opinion.<\/p>\n
Do not use your dining room table to hold meetings. We did this and while all meetings weren\u2019t stressful there were a few that caused strife and things that needed to be worked out. I wanted my dining room table to be a table that held memories of family, good times, happiness not anxiety or conflict. There have not been for a while nor will be any meetings at my dining room table again. <\/p>\n
If you share meals, farm talk isn\u2019t allowed. Time around the table should be catch up time, what else is happening in the world time, etc.<\/p>\n
If you struggle with finding a place, check out your township building, church, local diner (in public you may stay less vocally loud), your lender\u2019s place of business. I know it sounds like overkill but if you want a peaceful home you may need to do the extra work to keep the business separate.<\/p>\n
Our home should be the place where worries are left at the door. Where the manure is wiped from our boots, and we can let our shoulders relax.<\/p>\n
I\u2019m not na\u00efve enough to know that will happen in every home, everyday but staying healthy mentally, physically, and emotionally takes work.<\/p>\n
I pray you find your balancing act with your family, home, and farm.<\/p>\n
\u00a0<\/p>\n
. . . to be continued . . .<\/p>\n
If you want to share your thoughts or experience anonymously message me.<\/p>\n
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