Beyond Equality: The Upward Dance of Polarity

But can we? Can we dance when we are sore and achy, all covered in bruises, mud and scars?

Our collective dance with power of polarity has been clumsy at best, more like catastrophic. We’ve trampled toes, twisted arms, let each other fall, pushed, drugged each other through the mud, crushed bones, tore spirits. We have turned the dance floor of pleasure into the battlefiled of will. But our solution – to stop dancing altogether – misses the point entirely.

As we’ve struggled to correct the imbalances of the past, we’ve inadvertently created new ones. The feminine principle, long suppressed, has been further obscured in our rush to adopt masculine modes of power. Meanwhile, the masculine, feeling threatened, has become more rigid and unyielding. We’ve lost touch with the fluid, intuitive nature of the feminine, while the masculine has calcified into a caricature of strength without vulnerability.

And our answer has been to homogenize. In our quest to reshape power dynamics, we’ve often missed the mark, seeking equality through homogenization rather than embracing the rich tapestry of our inherent differences. 

Feminine and masculine are energies, not genders. While women generally embody more feminine energy and men more masculine, both genders have some of each, just in varying proportions. However, our society is deeply unbalanced, structured around masculine modes of power. This imbalance forces people who are more connected to their feminine energy into an impossible choice: adopt modes misaligned with their core or be sidelined as less – less respected, less rewarded, less free. It also disconnects and does not even serve those who are “lucky” to have more masculine energy, as it disconnects them from vulnerability and the power of the feminine both inside and relationally.

From the degrade to dissipation 

We went from the debates if a woman could be classified as human Or is she closer to an animal? Possession?, mere tits&womb? A silent vessel to breed generations of new humans, A servant, slave, hysteric, cannot reason, must be a virgin, but when she refuses to give it up with little to no effort- she is a bitch, when she give is it-slut&whore…

A piece of property to claim and put your stamp all over  Maybe beloved if she is lucky, but always at least slightly less  And never more

So after so long of this bulshit,  we’ve revolted, wanting to be equal, Wanting to be seen, and heard, be more Even if it meant that in being equal, So many have become too similar to men And lost the knowing how to be her

We won the rights but lost the essence.  We got more freedom but lost touch with our core It became easier to live in this world as woman But harder to be H:ER. 

The Pitfalls of Soft Equality

In our efforts to dismantle ingrained patriarchal systems, many have sought alternative power dynamics in relationships and organizations. These are often softened versions aiming for equality and equity. Yet, in practice, these well-intentioned aspirations, while arguably more balanced than our patriarchal inheritance, lead to confusion. We find ourselves unmoored, unsure of our standing, unable to fully step into our power. In pursuing equality, we’ve become more homogenized, more confused, inadvertently stunting our growth and failing to meet our deepest needs. This forced homogenization is not only unauthentic and feels unauthentic but also stunts our growth and maturation that comes with stepping into our power fully. It’s as though we’re frozen in perpetual teenage immaturity and awkwardness, unable to step into our adulthood with both the fulfillment and responsibility that comes with the authority of self.

From zero-sum to mutual empowrment

What if, instead of viewing power as a finite resource to be divided equally, we reconceptualized it as a dynamic system of circulation? Rather than a zero-sum game where one’s gain is another’s loss, or something to tiptoe around in a misguided attempt at fairness, power can be a force for mutual elevation. Power of being yourself, power of embodying your own unique blend of masculine-feminine polarity both within self, relationships, and in how we organize our lives. Stepping into this power invites others to do the same. Dancing with this power generates more power, thus uplifting everyone involved.

This approach moves us beyond equality through homogenization and depolarization, into realms of equality via the dynamic interplay of polarities. It honors the different modes of operation inherent to us in varying proportions, allowing for fluid and constant interchange. Through this dance, we uplift and empower each other, stepping into the fullness of our unique expressions of power.

Commanding: The Masculine Mode of Power

Commanding energy springs from authority earned through action. It’s rooted in a clear vision and the ability to manifest desired outcomes. It declares, Do what I say, fulfilling needs for control, architecture, and guidance. This energy is measured, far-reaching, commanding respect through adherence to direction and willingness to be guided. It seeks vulnerability and surrender.

Authority here is earned through actions, adherence to codes and principles, and external accomplishments. The masculine path involves training, starting from the bottom and working upwards. It requires both humility and control – humility to learn, to be guided, to do what must be done even when unpleasant; control to execute, to acquire new skills, to become effective, purposeful and directed.

The  journey builds the ability to handle power, to learn how to be a teacher and a student, command and serve, and to shift between control and openness as needed. It’s a path of mastery, where power is acquired through discipline and transcendence of personal limitations. Those who remain hesitant, undisciplined, or overly concerned with pleasing others find power elusive on this path.

The masculine path teaches us the mastery of CNTRL-SHFT-SRNDR (Control-Shift-Surrender). Paradoxically, control not tempered and balanced by surrender leads to loss of control over oneself. This imbalance drives one to control everything externally, avoiding the ever-growing need for vulnerability. Because more control requires deeper ability to be vulnerable, an unbalanced state leads to an insatiable hunger for external control.

True mastery lies in using control as a means of service and the ability to dance between control and surrender, holding power without being corrupted by it.

VO:C-O-PWR – Voice of power

Without CNTRL control, you cannot yield me.  Without SRNDR surrender, you cannot hold. 

Don’t even think about me  Before you’ve mastered art of  CNTRL-SHFT-SRNDR (control shift surrender)

Don’t come before me,  Or I will destroy you and all.